Is something in this demand making me uncomfortable? What is it? What part of the demand is OK for me, and what part is not? Is what the other person wants going to hurt me? Is what the other person wants going to hurt anyone else? Does the other person’s request take into consideration my wants and feelings? Is something in the demand or the way it was presented to me making me feel afraid, obligated or guilty? What is it? What’s in it for me?
