The complexity is that the initial relief, gained through vulnerability, soon shifts to a familiar burden to care for others or present a “changed” version of ourselves far earlier than we should. This ushers us back to one of the core experiences of unwanted sexual behavior from part 2: deprivation. We begin to deprive ourselves of what is beneficial in order to give back to churches or communities what we think they want to see. Please know there is no obligation to give any of your time, story, or resources away because of what you learn. It may be that what you need more than anything is a
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