It is a tragic fate to have a father who beats a helpless child. That is not your fault. But not wanting to see, as an adult, how he is, and to sacrifice one’s developmental opportunities and maturation chances for this blindness, to turn oneself slowly into this father, in order to protect him and to spare him—this is not fate. This need not to be so. It is rather a destructive and self-destructive decision, for which you as an adult bear the entire responsibility.
