When your daughter swims to you, enjoy it, but don’t get your hopes up that she has rediscovered the value of your wisdom and affection and will never again forget it. When she shoves off, don’t allow your daughter to mistreat you. If her push-off is rude, tell her so. She may or may not apologize, but you need to say—and she needs to hear you say—“That’s hurtful.”
