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love will not prevail in any situation where one party, either female or male, wants to maintain control.
To know love we must surrender our attachment to sexist thinking in whatever form it takes in our lives.
To practice the art of loving we have first to choose love—admit to ourselves that we want to know love and be loving even if we do not know what that means.
“Whether it be shallow or not, commitment is the foundation, the bedrock of any genuinely loving relationship. Deep commitment does not guarantee the success of the relationship but does help more than any other factor to ensure it. . . . Anyone who is truly concerned for the spiritual growth of another knows, consciously or instinctively, that he or she can significantly foster that growth only through a relationship of constancy.”
False notions of love teach us that it is the place where we will feel no pain, where we will be in a state of constant bliss. We have to expose the falseness of these beliefs to see and accept the reality that suffering and pain do not end when we begin to love.
TO RETURN TO love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships.
Most of us prefer to have a partner who is lacking than no partner at all.
Oh damn she came through swinging huh
the vast majority of males in our society are convinced that their erotic longing indicates who they should, and can, love. Led by their penis, seduced by erotic desire, they often end up in relationships with partners with whom they share no common interests or values.
If men were socialized to desire love as much as they are taught to desire sex, we would see a cultural revolution.
action. Understanding that death is always with us can serve as the faithful reminder that the time to do what we feel called to do is always now and not in some distant and unimagined future.
we know that no matter the occasional presence of suffering in our lives we will return always to remembered calm and bliss.
Life without communion in love with others would be less fulfilling no matter the extent of one’s self-love.
Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone—we find it with another.
Fearful that believing in love’s truths and letting them guide our lives will lead to further betrayal, we hold back from love when our hearts are full of longing.
paradise is our home and love our true destiny.
