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“I want to be honest. The last thing I want to do is hurt you again and what I have to say might do that, so if you don’t want me to say it, I won’t.”
this is just me, it’s the feeling that I care about—what sex is supposed to represent.” “And that’s what to you?” “If you felt the same way as I feel about you, you would want to have sex with me.”
“You would think of me as someone worthy of your passion and desire, and you would show me how you feel physically. Not just with words but with action and urgency,” he continued, “but you don’t and for the most part, I understand.
That’s not a part of who you are and I know that doesn’t mean that you don’t have other feelings for me.”
but the thing is, that feeling that you can’t give me? It’s important to me. And I can’t apologize for feeling that way or for wanting it.”
We are the way we are and we’re just not compatible in that way.”
“You know, now that you’ve mentioned it, you really do assume a lot.”
“No one has ever complimented me as much as you do. Every day. All day.
You genuinely listen to what I have to say and value my opinion.
“When you thought I didn’t want you, you started to cry,”
you didn’t want me to see how much what I was saying hurt you, because you do desire me.
You wanted me so much that me saying no caused you actual pain.
thought of me only caring about not being able to have sex with you hurt because you thought I k...
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Whether you’re so overwhelmed you can’t keep your hands off me or you’re crying because you think I don’t want you, it’s the same thing. It comes from the same place. That’s desire.
You’ve never held back how you feel about me.”
She hadn’t realized she’d been waiting for someone, anyone, to say that to her.
Stripped down to the core, being with you is what I want because I’m in love with you. If we never had sex, I would still want to be with you because you’re in my heart, too.
it’s important to me that you know that.”
“What am I going to do with you?”
I don’t want to have sex, but I like other … stuff.”
“Cuddling, snuggling, hugging, kissing, and touching. All of that is great.”
“Squee?” “You know,” she said, pulling back and fanning her face, “that feeling you get when you’re really happy and it’s building in your chest, but you can’t find the right words so you just make incoherent noises.”
“Being in a relationship takes actual effort to be successful,” he said. “Not just talking, but listening, being honest, respecting each other, and compromise, you know, those kinds of things.
make sure to marry your best friend
Me and you? We don’t have anything to worry abou...
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“I know you make me happy,” he said, seconds away from falling asleep. “I know you love me.” “I know you love me, too.”
Yellow * Friends’ Reactions: Something that makes you super happy but you don’t know why.
Makes me feel like it’s possible to hold sunshine,
Yellow-Orange * Friends’ Reactions: (When asked for non-sexual examples, no one had an answer.
Something that really gets me in my feels.
Orange * Friends’ Reactions: “So pretty it makes you jealous.
My Reaction: People I would consider very beautiful.
Orange-Red * Friends’ Reactions: “When lust and love collide.”
Japanese saying ‘koi no yokan.’ It’s kind of like love at first sight but not really.
Something that gives me chills or has that time-stopping factor. Lots of staring. An extremely well-decorated room.
Red (aka the most controversial code)
My Reaction: Uncontrollable staring. Urge to touch is strong,
If you could travel to any time period, what would you pick and why? CK: The future.
How did you first learn about Swoon Reads? CK: In 2013, one of my professors emailed links for online writing communities to the creative writing students.
Figment and Swoon Reads
Sandy’s first book, A Little Somethi...
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Once you were chosen, who was the first person you told and how did you celebrate?
What’s the best writing advice you’ve ever heard? CK: Master. Your. Craft. Writing is hard work, and while some people are naturally good at it, most of us need to study
Analyze your favorite stories, use craft books to help you learn structure, discover your personal brand of syntax, explore different narrative points of view
tell us all what makes you swoon! CK: It takes a lot to make me swoon, but I definitely squee on the regular, so a happy or cute ending!
What common interests do you share with your friends, and how does having these interests in common affect your relationship?
How does Alice’s perception of asexuality change from the first page of the book to the last? How does her sense of herself change as a result of this?
