The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

by Miguel Ruiz

Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness

We think we are responsible for everything.

we try to impose our world on their world.

They can hook you easily with one little opinion

When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts.

Either way, it does not affect me because I know what I am.

I don’t have the need to be accepted.

nothing they think about me is really about me, but it is about them.

you get mad because you are afraid,

mad

hate

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sad.

If you live without fear, if you love, there is no place for an...

When you feel good, everything around...

When everything around you is great, everything ...

You are loving everything that is around you, because you a...

Because you like the way you are. Because you are content with you. Because you a...

peace,

Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally.

making an inventory of our agreements will we uncover all of the conflicts in the mind and eventually make order out of the chaos of the mitote.

They are lying to you because they are afraid.

If others say one thing, but do another, you are lying to yourself if you don’t listen to their actions.

If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her.

don’t take the emotional poison,

Taking nothing personally helps you to break many habits and routines that trap you

trust yourself to make responsible choices.

You can ask for what you need.

You can say yes, or you can say no — whatever you choose — without guilt or self-judgment.

we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions, and believe we are right about the assumptions;

We only see what we want to see, and hear what we want to hear.

Making assumptions in our relationships is really asking for problems.

We have the need to justify everything, to explain and understand everything, in order to feel safe.

just the answer itself makes us feel safe. This is why we make assumptions.

if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate.

We make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do. We assume that others think the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge the way we judge, and abuse the way we abuse. This is the biggest assumption that humans make.

we have a fear of being ourselves around others.

You overestimate or underestimate yourself because you haven’t taken the time to ask yourself questions and to answer them.

you see what you didn’t want to see before,

Real love

We have to be what we are, so we don’t have to present a false image.

The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions.

Make sure the communication is clear. If you don’t understand, ask.

find your voice to ask for what you want.

uses the word for creation, giving, sharing, and loving. By making this one agreement a habit, your whole life will be completely transformed.

What you need comes to you easily because spirit moves freely through you.

mastery of intent,

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