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Perfectionism only gets loud when people get moving.
There’s no room for weird when it comes to perfectionism.
Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress. Working hard for something we love is called passion. —Simon Sinek
Cut your goal in half. Choose what you’ll bomb. Make it fun if you want it done.
The closer you get to finishing, the more interesting everything else in your life becomes. It’s as if you’ve put on distraction goggles. Things you never noticed pop up and dance tantalizingly across your vision.
perfectionism offers us two distinct distractions: Hiding places Noble obstacles
What’s the app you open up on your phone without even thinking? We all have one of those.
If you ever have to do a complicated, multistep explanation to say why what you’re doing is valuable, it probably isn’t.
Einstein did his best work when he was employed at the ever-boring patent office. Why did this help him? Because his mundane job didn’t drain him creatively.
one of the best ways to fall in love with a new goal is to just try to finish an old one.
You are never more creative for new ideas than when you are almost done with an old one.
I didn’t say never; I said later.
“Until” Will Kill You
Until I pick the perfect goal I can’t work on anything. That’s what tripped up so many people during the 30 Days of Hustle.
Perfectionism always makes things harder and more complicated. Finishers make things easier and simpler.
Most people think that the biggest jerk in the bird world is the Canada goose. Every year, I feel like tweeting, “Dear Canada, your geese got out again. Please come get them.”
I love this!!!
At the core, perfectionism is a desperate attempt to live up to impossible standards.
over the years, as you chase goals, perfectionism quietly adds some secret rules to your life.
at the Atlanta airport, because most of the employees there hate you.
Lol
You’ve got some secret rules that make it really difficult for you to finish.
I’m not alone in this, as there are many people who struggle with a fear of success. The more successful they get, the guiltier they get, too.
One of perfectionism’s favorite secret rules is “Winners never quit.” Of course they do—people quit stupid things regularly.
Finishing a goal you absolutely hate isn’t a win.
We become adult toddlers when we refuse help from people and believe the lie that seeking assistance is a sign of weakness.
in most goals it’s not about winning all the time, it’s about winning more than you lose.
The first thing you should do is simply ask the question, “What does that mean?” for each secret rule you encounter.
You want to see how ridiculous your fake rule really is.
The second question to ask is “Who says?”
The third step to getting rid of a secret rule is to write a new rule to replace it. Mine would be “Success is good.”
Actions: Listen for a few secret rules and write them down.
Write the truth next to each secret rule. To find it, ask “What does that mean” and “Who says?” Create a new rule to replace the old one. Enlist a friend to help you see when you’re living by a secret rule.
Perfectionism screams failure and hides progress.
That’s all data is. A gift from yesterday that you receive today to make tomorrow better.
Old people and little kids tell the truth. We only act polite in between.
lot of our problems in life are self-inflicted and not mysteries.
Denial is neon in others and invisible in you.
Your emotions cloud your judgment.
Disaster is always the final destination of denial.
That’s one of the great things about data. It’s a shame killer.
You never know you own too many books until you have to move and realize a book is just a brick with words.
It’s easier to hide your idea in a box under your bed than it is to share it with the world.
Talent you don’t claim turns into bitterness eventually.
people are extremely hard to live with when they have a talent they aren’t able to use.”
The finish line isn’t scary when you realize it’s also a starting line for the next thing. It’s not the end, it’s just a different kind of beginning.
You don’t need to have the next thing figured out before you finish this thing. Finish anyway.
“Every kid is one caring adult away from being a success story.”
“What am I getting out of not finishing?” Because you’re getting something.
This is a classic benefit of not finishing. You get to hold on to the illusion that you could finish if you really wanted to.
Identify what you’re getting out of not finishing and then tip the scales in your favor, especially as we get closer to the finish line.
sometimes cool is a form of cowardice to prevent you from admitting the things you deeply care about.
