You should not put yourself out in the cold and then resent others for leaving you there. You can warm your own heart from within. You can draw on your own inner resourcefulness. It is not realistic to expect people to see into your heart and approve what is there. In any case, it is this warm and wholesome part of yourself — this inner strength — that you need to draw forth so that friends can connect with it. It is this part of yourself that allows you to enter into warm and healthy relationships with others. It is these inner qualities that enable you to feel your connections of
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