My mom did not come—not that weekend, not that year. Cross-country travel is no casual thing, and we were seeing each other back east for weddings plenty. My roommate’s mom came three times in the first year. After one of her visits, I said to my roommate, “I’ve been here for fourteen months, and my mother literally never even mentions coming. I mean, you’d think she’d want to see where her child was living.” I wasn’t afraid to phrase things dramatically; blame it on five months of Santa Barbara. I wanted to take my mom to my office and introduce her to my manager, a strange and loving woman
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