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September 21 - September 21, 2018
Your healing is about standing up tall, looking people in the eyes, and calmly saying, “I have my own opinions, and I am okay if you disagree.”
Obligation is a powerful driver when we are raised in environments that teach us to ignore our safety and well-being.
When psychological abuse and spiritual abuse are present, many survivors find themselves questioning their faith as a result
refuse to be held back from creating a vibrant life.
Rarely does a toxic person give an authentic apology.
Authentic, lasting remorse is not in a psychological abuser’s skill set.
People come into adulthood with all sorts of misconceptions from their childhoods. They must rewire these beliefs in order to have healthy adult lives.
One of the main steps of healing is to come to terms with how much their core personhood changed while in the harmful environment.
Boundaries are the foundation for regulating a high degree of compassion for other people.
By itself, each toxic conversation or moment may not mean a lot. However, when a survivor starts to string them all together, the pervasive pattern of life always centering on the abuser becomes crystal clear.
Psychological abusers count on a target to minimize and normalize their toxic behaviors, and be willing to take more abuse.
deprogram the conscious and subconscious lies the abusers have planted
“Are you going to choose yourself or your abuser?”
an isolated victim is a controlled victim.
In the early stages of recovery, survivors often talk about the toxic person as being “two completely different people.”
freedom to be our authentic selves, not some watered down versions
no glory in clinging to a lie because the truth is too painful to accept.
choose to live again.
know your life is no longer controlled by an abuser.
allowed to start dreaming.
begin adding back what was robbed during the abuse.
dream and dream big!
All things becoming new
They allow their unmanaged moods to spill out and taint what could have been good memories for other people. They even do this to their own children.
soak in all the calmness a life of recovery has offered you.
When an abuser is love bombing, or creating other forms of emotional chaos, a survivor’s energy increases as the level of adrenaline increases.
This inevitably creates a biochemical dependency on the toxic relationship to lift the survivor out of a flat mood.
Our inner dialogue and self-worth will determine the type of people we allow – or reject – in our lives.
Let healthier people come into your life.
parenting in a way that breaks the family tradition
hard for them to describe the insidiousness of the abuse they experienced.
toxic people love to accuse their victims of being crazy.
entire personhood was systematically stripped down and replaced with abuse.
Educate yourself on terms like Gaslighting, Smear Campaigns, Triangulation, Flying Monkeys, Idealize/Devalue/Discard Stage, and Love Bombing.
The toxic person wanted to destroy your loved one and all of her or his relationships. Please do not let that plan succeed.
Survivors who try to get help to protect themselves and their children are often seen as “hysterical, crazy, and unstable.”
hidden abuse is very difficult to put into words.
respect for differences is something narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths cannot comprehend.
friends are the family members that we get to choose.
your abuser(s) made you feel like you did not belong?
Since narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths submit their will to no one, do you believe it is possible for them to have an authentic relationship with God?
Psychological abusers like people who make them look or feel good.
some psychological abusers will use tears when it serves to make them look like the victim.
most outwardly expressed emotions of psychological abusers are for a distinct purpose; that is usually to harm others in some way.
