So what should you do when these intense emotions occur? Treat them as an alarm, a sign pointing to a certain unsolved problem. When the siren howls, direct all your attention inwards. Why do I feel anger? What exactly made me so angry? What am I missing that makes me feel this way? What do I need? Such insight and finding answers to these questions is not easy when we feel like we want to fight and pour these bad emotions on the other person. It is very important, however, to stop for a while, take a deep breath and give yourself a few moments to observe what is going on inside of you.
