Never Chase Men Again: 38 Dating Secrets to Get the Guy, Keep Him Interested, and Prevent Dead-End Relationships (Smart Dating Books for Women)

by Bruce Bryans

a man will realize how much he actually cares about a woman based on the totality of his actions regarding her.

The more sacrifices he makes for her in terms of time, acts of significance, and commitments, the less he can rationalize away her importance to him even if things do not work out in the long-run.

Some more ugly truth: men will say just about anything to get sex.

The very same guy that was texting you day and night, ditching his friends to be with you, and showing up to your work all romantic like is the very same guy who will almost instantaneously transform into a dispassionate rapscallion the minute you have sex with him.

Sure, you can simply stop having sex with a guy if he becomes dispassionate, but since he’s already made the score, why should it matter to him?

Men are the gatekeepers of commitment, our highest card being marriage itself.

If a woman has not trained herself to abhor emotional drama,

In the game of attraction, male aloofness is the best tool a man has in his arsenal to hook you and keep you so emotionally off-balanced that you can’t see him or the relationship for what it really is.

mix of emotional detachment and unpredictable tenderness, he can get what he wants from you without ever (or rarely) having to give you what you want.

You’ll be so busy thinking about what he wants, how to make him want you, and how to make him happy (so that he can want you), etc., that you’ll neglect to really consider whether or not he’s actually int...

As long as you’re confused about how he feels about you, what he wants, or even what the future looks like with this man…you’re already in a dangerous situation.

Instead, you’d be better off if you simply adjusted your dating strategy so that your experience with such men is kept minimal. Use your “confusion” to help you realize when you’re dealing with a wolf in sheep’s clothing and respond accordingly by taking your business elsewhere.

This is why you need to know what you’re willing and not willing to put up with before you invest your time in a guy. Having a set of rules or guidelines gives you standards that will allow you to make cold, rational, and what may feel like risky decisions when it comes to dating and relating with men.

high-quality men love women who do not tolerate scoundrels, scrubs, and scallywags.

Use the emotional confusion you feel about a man’s detached behavior towards you as a big, red, flashing warning sign that you’re being taken for a ride.

Even worse, if you decide not to evaluate men based on their consistent display of high-character in how they treat you, the high-status, relationship-minded men who want to settle down with a great girlfriend will continue to overlook you for relationships.

you must reach a point at which overly aggressive, narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, or irresolute men turn you off instantly.

I cannot stress enough that you need to have zero tolerance for such men if you want to attract a great guy who actually wants to be with you and only you.

It’s important for a woman to understand that rejection, love loss, and bad timing are all a part of the dating journey.

You may be tempted to act wishy-washy with men after a string of guys treat you the same way.

Nothing is more unattractive to a quality, genuine guy than a woman who seems as if she doesn’t enjoy being around men.

They can easily (and rather quickly) pick up on those behavioral cues that reveal a distrustful or cold-hearted attitude towards men.

So as you go through trial and error in your search for a man who deserves your all, maintain a positive mental attitude. Have faith that your Mr. Right

is out there as well, and is probably going through just as much dating hell as you, if not mor...

These are women who can confidently express themselves without emasculating their guy in the process.

If you find that the men you date continually shut you out or shut down on you (both are examples of male stonewalling) during an argument or even during minor disagreements it may be because you have difficulty communicating respectfully with men.

a man disengages emotionally when faced with constant disrespect while interacting with a woman.

the more disengaged a man will become until he’s finally had enough and decides to call it quits, call it off, or not call you ever again altogether.

Guys just couldn’t seem to bounce back as quickly as the women after enduring hostile and disrespectful communication.

Men need respect the way women need love. To a man, being disrespected is actually worse or equal to being unloved.

When a mature, masculine, high-quality man is searching for what he considers ‘girlfriend material’, he doesn’t want to end up with a girl…he wants to be with a woman.

Quality guys love confident women who display their high-value in both their character and their appearance. And this confidence is communicated loud and clear when

a woman looks and moves (body language) like she believe...

Presenting yourself as a mature, confident, and desirable woman makes you appear highly selective, high status, and therefore, highly valuable to the opposite sex. Remember that.

Do not become complacent with your appearance after you’ve

attained an exclusive relationship.

all that can be eclipsed in time if you neglect that which captivated him in the first place: your physical beauty.

the opposite should be true. When a man has centered his desire on you and is pursuing you, this is when you should really do your best to maintain the magic of all that he finds appealing about you.

Do not draw attention to your own perceived inferiorities, limitations, or insecurities. Believe you’re worth it and that he cannot do better than you. And if you don’t believe it yet, act as if you do until you find a man who treats you right.

Being vulnerable creates opportunities for emotional intimacy, but constantly broadcasting your poor self-image implants contempt, especially if a man hasn’t committed to loving you unconditionally yet.

After a man has become exclusive with you, resist the urge to demand from him perpetual demonstrations and confirmations of his devotion to you.

And in case you didn’t know, fear and anxiety are poisonous to ANY relationship but especially to a new romance.

Fear and anxiety lead to unattractive behaviors in both men and women.

If your insecurities lead you to pe...

continuously update you about how he feels about you, you’ll eventually get an answer from him ...

If you allow this behavior to overwhelm your interactions with him as you become unhappy, sullen, and desperate, it will slowly but surely make him question himself. Your fear will trickle into his mind, and once this doubt has been instilled in him, he may begi...