Never Chase Men Again: 38 Dating Secrets to Get the Guy, Keep Him Interested, and Prevent Dead-End Relationships (Smart Dating Books for Women)

by Bruce Bryans

If you act needy with a man who has not earned such emotion or devotion from you it will cause him to lose interest very quickly.

woman who has her own standards and who clearly defines and defends her personal boundaries.

A woman with weak personal boundaries is easy prey for both manipulative and low interest men.

And when this silent contract is not met, Ms. Nice Girl quickly turns into a guilt-tripping, passive-aggressive, emotional manipulator.

she becomes upset and frustrated with a guy after he either neglects to address a need that was never clearly expressed or when he oversteps a boundary that she failed to enforce.

Assertive women enforce their personal boundaries and know how

to handle disagreements with grace.

because they understand how to respectfully handle conflict with a man without being overly conf...

I would rather she found someone who wanted to be with her for who she really was and whose ideal of a wife matched the desires she had for the future.

Don’t pretend that you’ll become or do something for some guy just to get him or to keep him.

your future desire to adopt all your children, your devotion to your religious beliefs, or something else life affirming.

don’t be so quick to cast it aside if doing so could potentially...

It’s not worth your happiness or your dig...

you should be especially wary about men who try to force you to give up such thi...

So if you want to avoid the misery that comes with compromising who you are just to keep a guy interested, learn to stay true to what’s really important to you.

two ridiculously easy ways you can tell how important you are to guy.

The first is to pay close attention to how eager he is to show you off to the world,

second is to closely observe how eager he is to spend ...

there’s little to no chance of you being physically i...

you’ve been dating a guy for several months and haven’t met any of his friends, you may be nothing more tha...

when a guy is serious about the woman he’s with he’ll eventually want to show her off to his friends, his family,...

he’ll either be indifferent or extremely opposed to introducing you to important (or even unim...

Therefore, on a subconscious level, it simply doesn’t make sense for a guy to involve a woman in the other areas of his life if he doesn’t

have any long-term plans for her.

On the other hand, there was another group of young women I dated where I wasn’t necessarily ashamed of them, I just knew on some level that they didn’t matter enough to me to inspire me to make much of an effort.

If he’s not making an effort to be seen with you in public…he doesn’t have any long-term plans for you.

Don’t delude yourself into thinking that you can convince him otherwise, as it will undoubtedly lead you into a frustrating dating situation or a dead-end relationship.

enchanting, flirty, and fun during the dating process. Relax into your femininity, invite him into your world, and playfully tease him into wanting more and more of your time and attention.

If you’ve been dating a guy seriously for some time and you’re quite sure that he’s started taking you for granted and has become apathetic to the relationship…you need to make him anxious. This is your best option if you don’t want his love to stagnate.

Just retain your calmness and gracefully communicate your needs with him and give him a fair amount of time to respond with a change in his actions.

time away from your warmth, generosities, and affections – to realize that you value your own sanity enough not to remain on a sinking ship.

choose to become testy and nagging to their boyfriends, thinking that this will ‘inspire’ them to show a little more interest.

If you use force, you’ll stir his anger, which may lead to resentment and/or complete disinterest.

Whether the action is his refreshed pursuit of you or his giving up on the relationship entirely will depend on how much he values what you both have as well as his own level of maturity.

If a man tells you he’s not looking for anything serious…believe him. And if a guy is clearly giving you those early warning signs that he’s only in it for the short-term…get out before you get too comfortable and things become too difficult to break off.

But there are still a good number of women out there that habitually attract and entertain these kinds of men. The reasons for doing so are numerous and can be anything from low self-esteem, self-delusion, or even a lack of experience dealing with men.

if you value your own worth more than his attention and adoration, you’ll have a much easier time turning away seemingly desirable but non-compatible men.

Don’t be one of those women who fancy the idea of captivating a desirable man who thinks himself incapable of being captivated.

Learn to trust your intuition if a man shows either a hostile or cavalier attitude towards commitment, or better, if he tells you he doesn’t want anything serious…believe him and believe you can do better.

If a man tells you he has commitment problems he’s either using it as an excuse for his lack of serious interest in you or he’s totally ignorant of his real problem.

Unfortunately, the reality is this: Men don’t have commitment problems.

And the main reason being is that men don’t always understand what’s really going on in their hearts. And even guys who do understand might not tell a woman what’s really going on if it might cause them to lose out on all the sweet benefits that comes with dating her.

Ladies, I’m here to tell you that if a man tells you he has a commitment problem, nine times out of ten it simply means that he has a problem committing to you.

Most of the time though, a man who dates you and claims he has ‘commitment problems’ is merely waiting for something he thinks is better to come along.

Never be a crutch to a man’s self-delusion and don’t be the kind of woman that men can string along indefinitely.

Move on, focus

on your own personal development, and aim to date men who both recognize and appreciate your acc...

Before you have sex with a man you possess nearly all the power in the relationship, but after you grant him access to sex you possess very little.

Here’s the thing: most men are less likely to stick around if they can have their way with a woman sexually without having to make a significant investment in her first and foremost.

a man values that which he has sacrificed greatly in order to attain.