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Bruce Bryans
situation. Women with strong personal boundaries are principle-centered, not men-centered or romance-centered.
When a woman has strong personal boundaries when dealing with men she doesn’t make excuses because of a man’s handsomeness, status, wealth, race, background, promises, sexual chemistry, etc.
It means that you shouldn’t be so eager to give up your family, friends, hobbies, dreams, and aspirations the minute a new guy expresses an interest in you.
We only value the things that we’ve worked for.
A man who refuses to
call you will certainly not take the steps necessary to commit to you in any way, shape, or form. Don’t waste your precious time on a guy who won’t escalate something as simple as his method of communication.
It is difficult to obtain and extremely easy to lose.
Do not speak negatively about your past relationships.
High-quality men pay enormous attention to the way a woman treats other men, or, in the case of exes, how she discusses her past experiences with other men.
No man wants to think that:
1. He might be defective since all you seem to attract are defective men, or…
2. He’s attracted a woman with more baggage t...
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how a guy may view your own level of self-awareness and responsibility.
will avoid getting into a relationship with a woman who insists that she’s always the victim when it comes to her dating history.
“If you don’t have anything nice to say…don’t say anything at all.”
Take away your attention and feminine affections. Stop entertaining his half-hearted communication attempts (you know what they look like). Turn your attention towards other more insistent suitors. Seek the company of your friends and prioritize your own personal development.
If he has any kind of real desire for you, he will pull out all the stops to get you back. If he does nothing, the only thing you’ll have lost is a man who wasn’t right for you as opposed to losing your dignity as well.
romance. If you fail to reign in your overzealous emotions toward a newly interested man, he may no longer see you as a challenge worthy of his full attention.
If a man becomes fully aware that he harbors a greater place
of importance in your mind than you do in his, your prestige will lessen even more in his mind.
Remember, men want that which is a challenge to attain.
I’m not talking about compromising your values or anything that could jeopardize your dignity.
Show some flexibility and learn to roll with the punches instead.
Therefore, it is impossible for a man to develop a deep emotional connection to a woman if she refuses to bare her soul (when the time is right).
And to get this deeply emotional and intimate connection you have to be willing to be more vulnerable with the men who prove themselves both trustworthy and worth your attention.
if a man can stand firm as your emotions wash over him, he’s worth your time.
Not only does being vulnerable with a man make him feel more connected to you, but it also gives him the opportunity to be a pillar of strength for you.
When a woman is willing to bare her wounds at the appropriate time in the relationship it makes room for a man to protect, defend, nurture, and love her.
When a man does anything that shows that he cherishes you and wants to protect, provide, or possess you (ownership)…appreciate it...a lot.
When he tells you secrets, cherish it. When he shows you glimpses of his heart – the insecurities, the hopes, dreams, and hang-ups, no matter how ugly they are…cherish him.
If he does something unusually thoughtful or goes out of his way to meet a need of yours…cherish it and show your appreciation in word and deed.
It’s an eye-opening read if you want to exponentially enhance your ability to form deeper emotional connections with the men you date.
I’ll admit that a woman has to be vulnerable and be willing to risk rejection to love proactively.
Generally, men risk rejection by being the pursuers and initiators of romantic interest. Women on the other hand, risk rejection
as the primary pursuers of ...
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a woman must accept the risks that come with getting a man to form an emotional attachment to her (in order to secure his commitment). This is done by her thoughtful acts of love and loyalty.
Most importantly, as things progress, don’t worry about the outcome and never keep score. Simply love him proactively and use both your common sense and female intuition to decipher whether or not your love is being respected or simply taken for granted.
If a man respects, responds to, and returns your love with greater displays of loyalty and commitment…he’s a keeper.
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he doesn’t, kick him to...
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The right man won’t just possess the kind of qualities you find attractive in an ideal mate; he’ll also be in a place to cultivate the kind of relationship you’re ultimately after. In short, Mr. Right is also Mr. Commitment-Compatible.
A woman can save herself from a ton of heartache and disappointment by being willing to wait for the Mr. Right who also wants the right kind of commitment.
Don’t try to force a round peg in a square hole. Sometimes a man won’t commit because the time isn’t right for him. In such cases, it may be better to move on and wait for something a little better to come along.
Do not diminish the value of your love by lavishing it freely upon a mere casual suitor.
Female devotion, when a man has not yet earned it, is not perceived as “devotedness” in his eyes…it is seen as desperation.
A woman who is desperate with devotion to a man, one who has not yet offered her an exclusive relationship, does not arouse his love or desire, only his amusement.
One of the things that turns a man off and sends him running in the opposite direction is a woman who acts desperate with devotion when such devotion has not been earned or is not mutually shared.
it merely triggers feelings of remorse and ...
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I’m specifically talking about women who have the dangerous habit of giving their all to the men they date.
A desperate woman becomes an unhappy and anxious woman, and she always ends up sharing this angst and fretfulness with the men she dates.
