Strategy 2: Meaningful Challenges. To reinforce commitment and deepen connection, go for novelty and shared, meaningful challenge.29 Play out a lifelong sexual fantasy that you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t found the courage to explore. Turn on the lights—not to put on a show but to open your eyes and look at each other’s faces. Connect. Dive into trust in a big, risky way. Give yourselves, as a couple, something important to work toward. This is a research-based way to “advance the plot” in a relationship that is already at the “happily ever after” phase.
