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The comments and suggestions of others only hurt if we have somewhere heightened inner importance.
You have a huge advantage: mindfulness, the absence of importance as well as the willingness to give others your attention. Make the most of your advantage and you will see gold where others can only see stones.
Everyone to some extent or another maintains a protective field around them that jealously guards their self-worth.
No, a person is wounded most deeply when they are degraded.
Mutual love demands that we let go of the right to possess and simply give our love unconditionally. As long as it is not turned into a dependent relationship love can be preserved once it has already flowered, but there is nothing you can do to make yourself fall in love.
It may be an interview, an exam, a performance, a contest, or even a romantic date. Take off your cloak of inner importance. Give yourself pardon (in the sense of absolution) for your shortcomings and you will feel as if a huge weight has been lifted from your shoulders as the excess potential disappears and the energy of intention is released. The battle with your own shortcomings is the work of inner intention. It is the work of the fly beating itself against the window pane. In contrast, eliminating excess potential and freeing up energy gives you a huge advantage.
You may have doubts about whether there will be a vacancy for you at the position of your choice. If this is the case, you should be aware that pendulums will create the necessary conditions for anxiety, disappointment and even despair. You must remain aware of this and constantly affirm that you have the right to choose and that if you make an order, sooner or later it will be delivered.
It would be a mistake to make being offered the job the focus of your goal. The goal should sit in your thoughts as a slide featuring you, already having been offered the job with the application process behind you. By wondering whether you will be chosen or not you inevitably create scenarios of defeat. Remember the transfer chains. The first link is writing your cv. This is where you must focus inner intention.
The absence of desire grants a freedom that allows you to concentrate on the intention to act rather than on worrying about the possibility of failing.
The only effective way of reducing stress when you are in the hot-seat is to accept the possibility of failure beforehand.
Do not strive for your goal, concentrate on the process.
Lack of self-belief and lack of confidence are basically one and the same thing. Both undermine the effectiveness of inner intention and make outer intention practically impossible.
Confidence is not developed through action – it is the energy of intention released. You cannot develop confidence. Confidence is like energy – it is either present or not present.
The paradox lies in the fact that to acquire self-confidence you have to let go of wanting to acquire it. The labyrinth’s walls are made out of importance. You are walking round the labyrinth trying to get rid of your insecurity and acquire self-confidence. Confidence is a wild goose chase, another pendulum invention, a deceptive mirage, a trap for importance. Confidence is a pendulum game in which they always win. Where there is belief there is always room for doubt. Likewise, where there is confidence, there is always room for hesitation and indecisiveness.
Once a person has their freedom they no longer need confidence and the illusion of support that it creates.
My advice would be to abandon the struggle for worth altogether. Do not try to believe or convince yourself of your own value. Simply let go of the battle and observe what happens: the people around you will start treating you with more respect as if they valued you more highly.
The battle for self-worth drains your free energy and channels it into the battle with the alternatives flow and the creation of excess potentials that drums up the winds of balanced forces.
stop justifying yourself to others. Only ever justify yourself when it is absolutely necessary to explain your actions.
Having abandoned the battle for self-worth and given up justifying yourself you will have settled the score with a significant portion of inner importance as feelings of guilt and low self-worth are the predominant manifestations of inner importance.
By the same token, if you reduce the importance of external factors they will cease to reign over you with their pre-eminence. The two most oppressive kinds of outer importance are fear of the unknown and feeling overwhelmed by challenges.
As soon as you consciously reduce outer importance and abandon fighting against the alternatives flow, the obstacles you perceive will be cleared from your path.
You do not need confidence or faith. You need coordination. Coordination means: taking pleasure in thinking about the goal as if it had already been reached; letting go of the grip of control over the script and going with the alternatives flow, helping it along with the oar of pure intention.
When you go with the flow in conscious awareness everything falls into place without excessive effort. When you act in accordance with coordination, what you previously wanted to believe in but could not because it frightened you with the unknown will soon appear from around a bend in the current.
You do not need toughness in the battle with the pendulum. Emptiness is considerably more effective.
Be prepared for pendulums to provoke you gently and softly.
There is no need to fight to achieve your goal. All you need is the will to have.
People are always unsatisfied by the present moment and console themselves with the hope that things will soon improve. With this attitude the better future will never come. It will always hover just in front of you for you to chase after, and it will be just the same as trying to catch up with the setting sun.
The will to have is infinitely more powerful than the will to act.
When you end the battle and give yourself permission to have outer intention will find a way of giving you what you need.
Allow yourself to have from this moment onwards, unconditionally and unreservedly and not occasionally but all the time.
If you concentrate on the goal as if you had already achieved it your doors will open and the means will take care of themselves.
You should not need to push yourself. Do not pressure yourself or tense up over it for that again makes it a battle. Simply take pleasure in having exciting thoughts. Abandon importance and end the battle. Nothing is achieved by battling.
Enough of desiring; you are going to get what you need anyway. Just think about taking what already belongs to you. Take it calmly without demanding or insisting with the thought of: If want it, what is the problem? I will have it”
As soon as the grip of control weakens the limiting conditions of the mind fall away to reveal unity between heart and mind.
When you are dragging inner and outer importance around with you, you waste ninety nine percent of your energy on supporting excess potential.
The action you take can be turning the target slide round in your mind; visualising the process and calmly placing one foot in front of the other in the direction of your goal.
Action is the antidote to excess potential, anxiety and fear. Act with the expectation to receive.
What should you do if you are not able to deal with the resentment and indignation you feel? Simply allow yourself not to be able to deal with it.
Do not pressure yourself to win all the time.
The will to have has three stages. The first stage is inhibition caused by an unfamiliar situation: “Surely this cannot all be for me?” When you run the target slide in your mind you will not quite be able to take in the fact that it might all be possible. The second stage is delight, a feeling close to weightlessness. There will come a point when you accept the goal into your comfort zone and feel the sense of restriction fall away. The realisation that the goal is actually quite realistic evokes a feeling of elation. The feeling of weightlessness is also quite real being caused by the
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3 stages of the will to have
Every time you come up against one event or another you make a choice about what your relationship to that event will be. If you choose to perceive the event as something positive you position yourself on a favourable branch of the life line. A predisposition for negativity however, causes a person to express their discontent and choose an unfavourable branch on the life line.
Adopt the foolish habit of rejoicing in setbacks.
By giving up your control over the scenario, you have it returned to you only this time control is aimed at going with the alternatives flow rather than fighting against it.
Coordination is the most effective means of moving through the alternatives space.
A belief is false if you have to persuade or convince yourself of it, no matter what approach you take, enthusiasm or duresse.
Now that you have removed the notion of belief from your mind, allow yourself to have the knowing that your desire will be fulfilled; for the law has it that: the goal will be reached if there is will to have and if there is the will to act by moving through the right door. It is your choice. You are in charge. If the decision is truly yours any thoughts along the lines of: “what if it does not happen”, will become irrelevant.
The question needs to be put differently: “Will it happen or not?” should be replaced by “What do I choose, success or failure?”
My goal is to break through the stereotypes and false thought patterns of the conventional worldview in order to assist you in breaking out of the box of conditioning and waking up into the dream of waking.
Do not think about the means; run the target slide in your mind and place one foot in front of the other in the direction of your goal.
Live out the slide that pictures your life as it would be were the goal already achieved. By practicing this exercise you work on the quality of your energy without fuelling it with conviction. Take pleasure in the task, then outer intention will do its work and apples will fall to the sky.
So, if you have made a big mistake and met with failure, be glad, for you are on the sure path to success. If you beat yourself up, whine and complain about life, failure will repeat itself again and again.
