Part of enacting this kind of a boundary is to refuse to take on the burden of the awkwardness, tension, or embarrassment of her behavior any longer. I call this return to sender. Maybe she now feels awkward or uneasy. Maybe she is angry that you keep bringing it up. This isn’t in your control. But in addressing your feelings, you’ve refused to take on those feelings for the both of you. In this way, you remain engaged in a relationship with her in a boundaried way.
