4 Lower the bar. Rather than thinking: What’s going to make me orgasm? I like to think: What’s something that I’m curious about experiencing right now? So maybe it’s just “I would love for you to kiss me a little bit softer” or “I would love for us to pick up the pace a little bit.” So it’s not about: What’s going to bring you the maximum level of pleasure in this moment? It’s just: What’s something that sounds kind of good right now?
