Abstention from dance and music poses a fair challenge in the event that the mourner is marrying off a child or is invited to a niece or nephew’s wedding. Some effort is made to accommodate such concerns when scheduling weddings, but it’s not always feasible or practical to do so. There are ways around it: uncles that are in mourning can sit together and be served the meal in a special room in the hall where they are not exposed to music and dancing. Another artifice is for mourners to perform banquet serving chores at the event, thus nominally rendering them workers instead of guests.
