I Want to Trust You, but I Don't: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment

by Lysa TerKeurst

“Trust is the oxygen of all human relationships.” A relationship without trust is a relationship without vulnerability and depth. A relationship without trust is void of the kind of love we were meant to give and receive. A relationship without trust is one with very little vibrancy and eventually no life at all.

trust takes time plus believable behavior, along with consistency, so a solid track record can be established.

It can feel like if I’m a trusting, giving, and honest person, then I’m going to get hurt. But if I succumb to looking out only for myself and trusting no one, I’ll live a very lonely existence.

With this whole trust journey, I’m having to learn how to acknowledge what may or may not happen in the future but make the choice to live in today. This is what I can control: making wise choices right now, knowing God is in full control. This is what I can’t control: all that happens in the tomorrows to come. In

Instead, my goal should be to continuously do my best to place my trust in God and carefully and reasonably place responsible conditions on trusting others. Sometimes

recognize when I’m getting controlling. And in that moment of realization, I need to pause and declare I’m making the choice to begin surrendering to God that which is beyond my ability to change in the moment.

Nothing we ever place in God’s hands will be returned without meaning.

The very best way to refute the hurtful things others have said and done is for us to go on and live a great life.