I don’t need a friend to jump in and tell me that what I’ve been through justifies retaliation. I need a friend who will say this is really hard and acknowledge the depth of unfairness that seems to be at play here. But then I need her to remind me that the absence of justice isn’t evidence of the absence of God. I want her to acknowledge my struggle but not jump into my spiraling thoughts with me. Oh, and if she’s there in person and brings a slice of chocolate cake with her, that’s good too. Her presence helps me feel God’s presence.
