I Want to Trust You, but I Don't: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment

by Lysa TerKeurst

trust in a relationship with another man. I wasn’t ready, and that was okay. More than okay. I think it was wise. I started trying to feel safe in relationships where there had been consistent safety and trust for a long time. That may sound strange, but when my trust was shattered by my marriage that ended, I started feeling skeptical of everyone. I remember one day looking at my best friend, who I have trusted without hesitation for years, and wondering, Do I really know her like I think I know her? I was so frustrated with myself until I understood this makes sense. I never thought others would hurt me, but now I know even seemingly good people are capable of breaking my trust. I started with making notes of all the many ways she repeatedly proves she’s trustworthy. She shows up when she says she’ll be there for me. She tells the truth. There aren’t weird inconsistencies in her stories. She holds private what I tell her in confidence.