The real issue was that I didn’t know a suitcase being wheeled away would be a problem. I didn’t know it would impact me with such force. My body couldn’t settle down and feel safe in the context of a rushed goodbye. So, I withdrew inside myself. And I just wanted to run away from the situation entirely. I’ve since learned this is a pretty common response for those of us with hurts that cut us to the core. Every trauma has two parts to it: the fact of what happened and the impact it had on us. When we dismiss our feelings and what those feelings are trying to tell us, our initial instinct can
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