I Want to Trust You, but I Don't: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment

by Lysa TerKeurst

I wish I could go back in time and tell myself that though the trust in this relationship could not be repaired, other relationships where the trust had been broken would be. Some friends would come back. Family members would too. My kids and I would find our way through the grief of loss. And there would come a day when we would start building a new collection of memorable moments. Good ones we didn’t see coming. Indeed, time didn’t get stuck in that season of heartbreak. If there is one thing that’s true about life after loss, it’s that it goes on. And as time goes on, some relationships will go on with us and some will not. Some will not, because they walked away. Some will not, because we made a wise choice to let go. Some will fade away. As seasons of life change, so do some relationships. Some will stay as strong as always. Some will be more complicated and uncertain, because trust has been broken. But perhaps instead of going away, they’ll stay. And you’ll stay. And now the hard work of repair must begin.