I Want to Trust You, but I Don't: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment

by Lysa TerKeurst

ask for forgiveness with a truly repentant heart.* seek ways to make restitution.* establish new patterns in their life that will support them making improvements in this area.* stay consistent, so the new patterns become new operating systems for them and eventually become the natural way of doing things.* follow through on the small things. welcome accountability. practice vulnerability. tend to their deeper issues with a trained professional, if necessary. be willing to go to counseling with you with a heart ready to fully participate. be patient with your triggers and ask what you need for reassurance. realize the greater the hurt, the longer the healing will take and to be willing to give this the time and attention required. be willing to cocreate a new future with you. You’ll both have to accept that a repaired relationship will mean a different relationship. Sometimes that means a stronger relationship than before. And other times, different will feel more like meeting someone for the first time, even though you’ve known them for years.