As a result, I do mental gymnastics trying to control the play. If I do this, then of course she will do that, right? I better not say no, because if I do, it will just push her further away. I bet if I give this, then she will get back on track. If I promise this, then she will stop making that mistake. If we just do x, y, and z, then things will go so much better for all of us. If I can just gather enough proof to show them my perspective, then they will want to do what I’m suggesting. Surely he will see the same red flags I do if I help him become aware of his blind spots. Life will work
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