I read something fascinating in a book recently. It’s from this book titled Conquering Shame and Codependency by Darlene Lancer where she explains that people who don’t try to gain something from outside of themselves are those who end up gaining the most, that self-esteem and pride come from letting go of external validation. It made me think about how I’m always trying to gain something from the outside. I’ve always craved external validation, whether it was through knowledge or affection or esteem. But it’s this very craving that indicates how I’m not enough to myself. I keep wanting to fix
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