People prefer not to say exactly what they mean in so many words because they’re not concerned only with the ideas they’re expressing; they’re also—even more—concerned with the effect their words will have on those they’re talking to. They want to make sure to maintain camaraderie, to avoid imposing, and to give (or at least appear to give) the other person some choice in the matter being discussed. And different people have different ways of honoring these potentially conflicting goals.
And even when you are careful with your words, stating what you want, because of this people don't take you at your word - even after explaining you don't play the hinting game - frustrating as all get out to have these same fights LOL
