Just as solidarity can do double duty, so can distance. Standing off to be polite or considerate, including using tide and last name, can be taken as a show of superiority—being uppity or snobbish. Imagine an adolescent who returns from finishing school and begins addressing family members with formally polite language. The family reaction might be “Are you angry at us?” or “Do you think you’re too good for us now?” A failure of solidarity can thus be interpreted as a presumption of superiority.
Oooooo I’ve been the subject to this a lot
