Be careful how you use your temperament differences “in combat.” Once you are aware of your differences, it can be tempting to use these to your advantage in a power struggle—and all couples have them. Do not use this basic aspect of yourselves as a weapon or easy target. It is not fair, for example, for your non-HSP partner to use the strategy of making such a highly stimulating fuss that you back down in order to avoid the overarousal required simply to state your case. Nor is it fair for you to threaten a complete collapse or explosion due to overarousal if your partner mentions some need,
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