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David Deida
A superior man sees his woman’s moods not as a curse, but as a challenge and an amusement.
Tickle her. Take off your clothes and dance the watusi. Sing opera for her. Make animal sounds. Shout at her louder than you ever have and then kiss her passionately. Press your belly into her until she melts. Lift her off the ground and spin her around. Occasionally, talking with her helps, but not as often as humor and physically expressed love.
The amazing thing is this: 90% of a woman’s emotional problems stem from feeling unloved. So don’t stand back and analyze her, like a doctor diagnosing a patient, or like a therapist questioning a client. Give her your love—the same love that is motivating your questioning—immediately and unmistakably.
Assume she is not feeling loved.
Assume she is more like a flower that needs watering than an engine that needs a carburetor adjustment.
Don’t assume anything is wrong at all. Assume that she wants love from you, in a deep, strong, steady, and sensitive way.
The bottom line is this: If ejaculation is not completely a matter of conscious choice for you, your woman knows she controls you sexually. And as long as she knows she’s in charge, she won’t trust you enough to relax fully in the force of your loving. She will always keep her heart somewhat protected.
Your woman will be sexually, emotionally, and spiritually unfulfilled to the extent that you are addicted to ejaculation. And, in many ways, the world will be just as unfulfilled by your gifts. Your addiction to cycles of release will stop you short of full and conscious dissolution in your deepest source, and so your true gifts will not emerge.
Whenever you notice that you are mulling over your own problems, knotting energy into your body as tension, take that energy and create a gift for others.
By practicing this form of breathing, you uncurl your attention from yourself, alleviating the knots of contraction in the front of your own body. And at the same time, you assume your true status as servant to others, who also, in their own way, are serving you.
Make love with the world in this way, all day,
Feel the world against your body like a naked woman,
“Your whole life seems to revolve around our relationship! That’s not healthy. You should have your own life, your own direction, your own career and friends. Stop complaining about our intimate problems and get a life!”
Nobody will press your buttons or reflect your asshole to you better than your woman.
