Have I invested enough in the relationship to be candid with them? Do I truly value them as people? Am I sure this is their issue and not mine? Am I sure I’m not speaking up because I feel threatened? Is the issue more important than the relationship? Does this conversation clearly serve their interests and not just mine? Am I willing to invest time and energy to help them change? Am I willing to show them how to do something, not just say what’s wrong? Am I willing and able to set clear, specific expectations?
