Abusive Relationships That Are Passed Off as Romantic in YA fiction

This list is meant to raise awareness. Because I'm tired of abusive assholes in YA being passed off as perfect romantic leads. I'm tired of abusive relationships being passed off as romantic.
Please do not add books just because you didn't like them or if you haven't read them.
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77 books · 51 voters · list created April 26th, 2014 by Marina (votes) .
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message 1: by Haru (new)


message 2: by Marina (new)

Marina Haru wrote: "Evermore"

I just read the reviews, good lord!


message 3: by Heather (new)

Heather I'm actually doing my dissertation on YA books, and one of my articles is talking about the abusive relationships that are passed off as romantic. I've included a good number in this list, but wish I'd found this sooner!


thebaronessofbooks I was going to read the 'Shatter Me' series, but just knowing it made this list I'm really don't think I will now. So nice to know I will not be wasting my time.


message 5: by Erta (new)

Erta i don't really know why Shatter me series is on this list...
of course Warner wasn't the best person in the beginning, but when his real relationship with Juliette started there was nothing abusive about it.actually he was the villain in the first book. now i'm just a random reader and may not be doing a dissertation on books, but i don't really thing this series belongs here. i can agree to some extent with Twilight or 50 Shades of Grey, Hush Hush, Beautiful Disaster, which are the books i've read, but not Shatter me.


message 6: by ♥♥Mari♥♥ (last edited Dec 28, 2017 12:50PM) (new)

 ♥♥Mari♥♥ I'm TOTALLY sick and tired of the Twilight books being labeled as portraying an "abusive" relationship. This is just NOT TRUE. These books shouldn't have made this list. Adding a book to such a list simply because someone didn't like it shows unfair bias.

I haven't read all of the books mentioned here, but, of those I have read, NONE of them, listed here, contain any type of abusive relationship. So I don't know why these were included, either. Again, just because someone doesn't like a certain book, that doesn't mean that it belongs on this list. These are the books I'm talking about, in addition to The Twilight Saga: Fallen, Evermore, Halo, Spirit Bound, Marked, Beautiful Creatures, Torment, Passion, Rapture, Life and Death, and Die For Me. I didn't much like Evermore, Halo, Marked, Beautiful Creatures, Rapture, and Life and Death, but would in NO way, shape, or form say that they contained "abusive" relationships.


message 7: by Marina (new)

Marina ♥♥Mari♥♥ wrote: "I'm TOTALLY sick and tired of the Twilight books being labeled as portraying an "abusive" relationship. This is just NOT TRUE. These books shouldn't have made this list. Adding a book to such a lis..."

I have no energy or desire to educate you, so I suggest you make google your friend and look up what abusive means and then read the books again. Maybe make a check list.

Also liking something doesn't mean you can't be critical of it. Or disliking mean I can't be objective.


message 8: by ♥♥Mari♥♥ (last edited Dec 27, 2017 09:06PM) (new)

 ♥♥Mari♥♥ Marina wrote: " ♥♥Mari♥♥ wrote: "I'm TOTALLY sick and tired of the Twilight books being labeled as portraying an "abusive" relationship. This is just NOT TRUE. These books shouldn't have made this list. Adding a ..."

There's no need to be sarcastic and state that you have "no desire to educate" me. I don't need to be "educated", either by Google or anyone else. Criticizing the Twilight Saga is very popular with some people on Goodreads. ANY excuse will do. As for the other books, I have NO idea why anyone would consider that they contain so-called "abusive" relationships. I continue to maintain that these books do NOT portray such a relationship. Believe me, I KNOW what an abusive relationship looks, and FEELS like, from personal experience. So I don't need any "education" in this regard.


~☆~Autumn♥♥☔ Good work Mari! Keep it up!


 ♥♥Mari♥♥ ~☆~Autumn♥♥ wrote: "Good work Mari! Keep it up!"

Thanks, Autumn!! I will!! <3 : )

There are books out there that are REALLY bad, as compared with The Twilight Saga. People should go after THEM, and leave Twilight alone!

BTW, "Wuthering Heights" and "Fifty Shades of Grey" are not even YA novels, but I voted on them anyway because these two books DO depict abusive relationships. I've read "Wuthering Heights", so I know what takes place in that book. I have not read "Fifty Shades", but, thanks to Wikipedia, I do know EXACTLY what the plot is about. SICKENING.


message 11: by Marina (last edited Dec 28, 2017 12:58PM) (new)

Marina ♥♥Mari♥♥ wrote: "Marina wrote: " ♥♥Mari♥♥ wrote: "I'm TOTALLY sick and tired of the Twilight books being labeled as portraying an "abusive" relationship. This is just NOT TRUE. These books shouldn't have made this ..."

I apologize if I came off as sarcastic, that was not my intent. If you don't think the relationships in these books are borderline abusive that's fine, it's your opinion. What I'm saying is I simply do not have the time or the energy to write lengthy rebuttals when the topic has been talked to death already and has been written about for ages.

Hating Twilight hasn't been in vogue for awhile, though I may be mistaken, since I don't participate in the community here as I do elsewhere. Not since 50 Shades at least... Personally, the book was a big part of my life back in high school and while I no longer enjoy it, I don't hate it. In fact, I frequently defend it's worth because of the impact it had on YA literature and culture.


message 12: by Kanan Jarrus (new)

Kanan Jarrus Okay so i'm just going to say that none of these books feature an Abusive Relationships.


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