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Leaving Tinkertown (Literature and Medicine Series)

Tanya Ward Goodman

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Dec 09, 2013 Martha Stettinius rated it it was amazing

Beautifully written, and devastating in its detail, “Leaving Tinkertown” is both a first-rate father-daughter love story and a testament to the particular heartbreak that is early-onset Alzheimer’s disease. The author’s father, Ross, is an eccentric but gentle and nurturing man who made his living in the West as a painter for carnivals. Over the years Ross built a 22-room museum of miniature wooden scenes and figurines—Tinkertown—by adding rooms one by one to their farmhouse in New Mexico, build Beautifully written, and devastating in its detail, “Leaving Tinkertown” is both a first-rate father-daughter love story and a testament to the particular heartbreak that is early-onset Alzheimer’s disease. The author’s father, Ross, is an eccentric but gentle and nurturing man who made his living in the West as a painter for carnivals. Over the years Ross built a 22-room museum of miniature wooden scenes and figurines—Tinkertown—by adding rooms one by one to their farmhouse in New Mexico, building the walls from glass bottles and cement. The author, Tanya, grows up sharing her home with visitors from across the country. When her father is diagnosed at age 58 with Alzheimer’s disease, Tanya is barely scraping by in her late 20s in Los Angeles, but doesn’t hesitate to come home, leaving her sweetheart behind, to help out her father, who grows increasingly testy and stubborn, and her high-octane but emotionally-removed step-mother. In “Leaving Tinkertown” Tanya artfully weaves scenes from her childhood with those from the present, showing us how she continues to adore her father but struggles with the fears we so often have as caregivers—that she’ll forget who she is and what she wants for herself, or be overcome by sadness. She is angry that with his dementia her father “is leaving,” and angry that she is “being left.” Over time, Tanya learns not only how to find her place as an adult in this strange and unpredictable household, overcoming attacks of anxiety and self doubt, but how to find her strength as a daughter and caregiver. As a reader, I came to feel a great fondness for both her and her father, so it was difficult to witness his rapid descent into early-onset Alzheimer’s. As the daughter of a woman who suffered from dementia for over 10 years, but declined more slowly than Ross and passed away at 80, not in middle-age, I felt immense sorrow for Tanya that she lost her father so young. Fortunately, her story is beautifully wrought; with exquisite detail, honesty and humor, Tanya guides us gently from moment to moment, in much the same way she learns to guide her father through the movements of his day. I highly recommend this book for any reader, not just those who have a loved one with dementia. Ross, Tanya, and the special place that is Tinkertown will stay with you long after you finish the last page.
--author, "Inside the Dementia Epidemic: A Daughter's Memoir"
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