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The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love

3.93  ·  Rating details ·  540 ratings  ·  37 reviews
A highly original approach from best selling author Thomas Moore, restoring sex to its rightful place in the human psyche as an experience of the soul.

In The Soul of Sex, Thomas Moore at last restores sex to its rightful place in the human psyche. Describing sex as an experience of the soul, Thomas Moore here brings out the fully human side of sex the roles of fantasy,
Paperback, 336 pages
Published August 4th 1999 by Harper Perennial (first published 1998)
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Jan 24, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Fans of Moore's other works, people interested in depth psychology.
Shelves: spirituality, sex

This isn't the best book to start with if you're not familiar with Thomas Moore's writings. Based on reading others' reviews, whatever many readers expect this book to be about when they start reading it, this isn't it. On the other hand, if you have read Moore before, you probably won't be surprised, but you may not find all that much that's new to you in here. Basically, Moore takes the general theme that runs through all his worksthat we can add depth, richness, and meaning to our lives by

Jun 13, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Anyone who enjoys a spiritually intense and intellectually stimulating examination of love and sex
If you enjoy a classic exploration of the social, historical and spiritual aspects of sex then this book is for you! Stimulating and intellectually satisfying it makes for an introspective read. Goes great with dark chocolate haha!
J Ruth
Oct 30, 2011 rated it it was amazing
The Soul of Sex is more than just "cultivating life as an act of love." It's a read for those who want to more intimately accept humanity's sexuality and love-drive. A beautiful book...
Feb 23, 2012 rated it it was ok
This review won't do justice to this book for one of the reasons I didn't like it: quite frankly, the author is smarter than me and I didn't get it. It is written from a Jungian-influenced psychotherapist's point of view. I feel comfortable thinking in black and white.

Though the author does not personally feel comfortable with crude sexual humor and behavior or with pornography, these things are discussed nonjudgmentally.

Still, there were parts I found interesting, like the idea that surrounding
Trevor Incogneato
yeah its whatever.

the curiosity and humor of the first few chapters on sexual motifs/archetypes through history and religion soon fade into what I imagine to be the rantings of the crazed at town hall meeting. why?

thomas moore and second rate philosophers everywhere love the word "should". it appears so often that the whole mood of the book is transformed into that of some long-winded introduction for another more substantial work that might actually have a working definition of soul (that isn't
Kathleen Brugger
Oct 24, 2013 rated it really liked it
I found the book frustrating, because I think he has a great message about sex but it was buried beneath his style of discussing everything in terms of mythology. The book's basic message was that sex is a part of what it is to be a soulful person. Sex is sacred, it is beautiful, it is holy. Our culture is completely confused about sex, and because we believe it's perverse we have become completely obsessed by it but get no satisfaction. He called for our culture to grow up and find a more ...more
Wendell Hennan
Aug 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
Moore argues that sex should be at the centre of life and the top of our priorities and if we dont give sex its due, it will haunt and consume us. But when sex has soul, deep pleasure and meaning find a common home and therefore this book is a sex manual for the soul. It is better to lie on a bed of straw and be free of fear, than to have a golden couch and an opulent table , yet be troubled in mind. Epicurean friendship is a central need for the soul and it gives sex a comfortable base. ...more
Apr 21, 2015 rated it liked it
One important function of reading is that a book allows you a safe distance to explore ideas both unfamiliar and uncomfortable. I'm thankful to Moore for bringing honesty and vibrancy to the topics in all his books, this one included.

Now, if you go by the title and don't know the author, you may be skeptical from the start. But if you've ever watched a nature show, you know sex is all around you: swap out the term "life force" or "vitality" for sex in the title and you get a clearer concept what
Feb 06, 2008 rated it really liked it
The title alone is what pulled me in. I really enjoyed this book in the beginning. The author explores the sexual archetypes commonly found in Greek and Roman mythology and treis to make a case for incorporating sexuality and spirituality into life for a greater existence. Sex and Religion in society are usually on opposite ends of our moral spectrum but Moore gives examples of Art and other areas of life where incorporating sex as a way to connectwith the divine and to the very forces that move ...more
Feb 16, 2010 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
Though I had a lot of hope for this book I could never really get into it. I read about 60 pages straight through and then skimmed the rest, never really finding that I was engrossed in what I was reading. The author did have some intriguing points now and then, like when he brought up Gabriel Josipovici's idea that touching someone or something confirms its presence, and Moore's thought extended from that to say that married couples should touch more in order to tune into a deeper, more ...more
Jun 26, 2008 rated it did not like it
Comments before reading: I'm very in to psychology so I'm interested in seeing what the different aspects that Thomas Moore finds. I hope it's not like a textbook as I wouldn't like this book if it was.

Comments after reading: This book was not very interesting to me. I started reading it and it wasn't what I was expecting. I read some of the reviews and a lot of people didn't like the book so I guess you have to be in the right mind frame to want to read it.
Jun 19, 2009 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I have to admit that I actually didn't finish this book. While Mr. Moore makes somes interesting points, and the introduction lends great promise, only a few chapters in and I found things to be the same opinions/points repeated over and over again with very little actual evidence to back said opinions up. Maybe it's just me and/or the wrong time in my life, but I found that my precious free-time was better spent moving on to better reads.
Feb 01, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: eros, self-care
Really fun. Book makes you think, which I enjoy. Read it at the right time. Enjoyed his chapter on celibacy. I think the author of the Erotic Mind would describe him as an 'all pleasure' guy, I appreciated his ideas -- even though there was a touch of elitism at times. But it's what I need right now -- not the elitism, but the intertwining of eros with the spiritual.
Lisa Audino
Sep 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book is the best I've read regarding sex and the soul, one of the best in general. This book is filled with amazing insights and intelligence. I wish more people would read this book, apply it and teach their children the principals and practices in this book. I believe we would be a more secure, loving and non-judgmental society. This book is truly a great work!
Rose B
Jan 24, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Okay, so I didn't even finish it. I got too bogged down in all the mythology and random crap. But the basic message is that our culture needs to accept that sensuality and sexuality is natural and part of our lives. Not really worth wading through the book to get that message.
Kathryn Bashaar
Aug 28, 2008 rated it did not like it
This book was very disappointing: just some guy's vague, random, disorganized musings on the topic of sex. I read about 30 pages, could not for the life of me figure out what his point was and gave up and quit reading.
I love Moore's other writings and have just started this one.
It could be an addition, or the antidote, to the 50 Shades phenomenon. :)
Sep 10, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Serendipitously, I found this at a second hand store. One of the best summaries of religion, mythology and life.

Last third of the book drifts, but still a great volume.
Jan 29, 2017 rated it really liked it
A serious examination of a fundamental topic.
Charlotte Leonard
Deep yet fun at time especially toward the end.
Jun 20, 2011 added it
Before reading the book the title would appear to be mis-leading .... after reading the book the title I found to be very appropriate ............ enjoyed
Apr 14, 2008 rated it it was ok
Hard to get into, believe it or not. It has such a juicy title.
Kiya Gorgaij
Jul 17, 2016 rated it it was amazing
It's Gud
Larry Wampler
May 20, 2016 rated it liked it
Mythological approach to Love. Rather dry and academic. Not as soulful as the title would lead us to expect.
May 10, 2016 rated it liked it
Great, but not as good as Care of the Soul.
Finally finished today, and figures it would be the end that proved the most rewarding ;-)
Aug 16, 2014 rated it it was ok
Pages 199 and 201 were interesting, as I noted the pages numbers only, and recall his comment on "the pleasures that build slowly" being lost to our society.

MEOW Date: 14 Aug 12,014 H.E.
Jul 21, 2007 rated it it was ok
Shelves: didnt-finish
Still haven't finished reading it...

Jul 28, 2011 added it
It's worth the time. I enjoyed this book.
Jan 15, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: completed
Interesting approach, a bit of a stretch in the definition of sex. The main point of our culturally repressed sexuality is a good one with some thoughts on ameliorating it.
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Thomas Moore is the author of the bestselling book Care of the Soul, Ageless Soul, and fifteen other books on deepening spirituality and cultivating soul in every aspect of life. He has been a monk, a musician, a university professor, and a psychotherapist, and today he

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