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Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (And More Life to Live)

3.35  ·  Rating details ·  2,117 ratings  ·  331 reviews
A revolutionary, real-world solution to the problem of unpaid, invisible work that women have shouldered for too long.

It started with the Sh*t I Do List. Tired of being the "shefault" parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family -- and then sent that list to her husband, asking
Kindle Edition, 352 pages
Published October 1st 2019 by G.P. Putnam's Sons
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Aug 31, 2019 rated it it was ok
An interesting book, and somewhat comforting to read. As a DINK I don't have a lot of these issues talked about in the book, but it has struck me that even though I have a full time job, with a half hour commute on either end, I end up doing all the housework, grocery shopping, meal execution, household repairs, budgeting, etc. while my husband uses his spare time to volunteer, attend political forums, have coffee "meetings" with every mover and shaker in the city, and play on his Ipad. And get ...more
Oct 02, 2019 rated it it was ok
This is the October @reesesbookclub selection. As a single woman who lives alone, I did not relate to this book. I find this to be such a miss for RBC as it really alienated me. This was clearly a vanity project for the author and I disliked the tone of several of her statements. I found the game to be confusing, and so much of it is based on your perceived opinions of your partner that I can’t imagine this would actually go over well. Maybe if I was at a different point in life this book would ...more
Alexis Jemal
Aug 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Before reading Fair Play, I wondered what would happen to my children if I died. Would they grow up in squalor, never having their hair combed and teeth brushed, or clean clothes to wear? Would they never see the doctor or dentist again for their regular check-ups? After reading Fair Play, I realized that of course not…my kids would be absolutely fine, because my husband is a reasonable and smart man, and thus, he would simply remarry.

Simply stated, Fair Play is about equitably restructuring
Nicole (Read Eat Sleep Repeat)
I first discovered Fair Play when browsing through Bustle and was intrigued by the concept of a system that gamifies the distribution of household work to achieve better balance. Curious to find out more, I immediately requested a copy from my library.

The premise of Fair Play is that all household related tasks are turned into cards to create a deck that is customized to your family, and then those cards are dealt (and re-dealt) as needed to establish who will be in charge of each task. It
Genevieve Trono
Sep 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
If you follow me on social media, you know I have been going on and on about Fair Play but I am just so excited about it. I love parenting books, I love self-help and relationship books and as soon as I saw the premise of this I knew I needed to read it ASAP!

The adjustment to parenthood did not happen super easily for us both personally and in our relationship together. It was a huge transition and we struggled in many ways as we navigated our new roles and expectations of one another.

“On many
Oct 10, 2019 rated it did not like it
I’m hesitant to say too much about this or rate it because I’m not the intended audience. As such I’m surprised Reese Witherspoon would select a book that alienates a large percentage of her book club readers. This book did make me appreciate all that parents, in particular moms, do. If I didn’t want kids or marriage before I certainly don’t want it now. This sealed the deal.

This is hetero-normative and gendered to the hilt and that’s a real missed opportunity. While same sex couples are
Kaytee Cobb
Nov 14, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction, library
I thought this was interesting but ocelot idealistic. I think it would be useful for two full time working patents to go through this game together and play, but for SAHM, which Rodsky says she is also (mostly?) talking to, I think the most important message here is: make time for self care, adult relationships, and "unicorn space". And have your partner get on board with that. There, i just saved you having to read this book.
Marie Comeau
Oct 08, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2019
Picked up this book because of Reese’s bookclub. Although there was obviously a lot of research done and she does point out some good points. It sounds like she wants to impose this “game” to their marriage, delegate while still supervising tasks instead of making the relationship a true partnership.

What gave this book only two stars was the tone.
Men are trash, woman are superior. Husband, if you don’t play this game, our whole marriage is at risks. She also make you put labels on yourself and
Jordyn  Gier
Oct 21, 2019 rated it did not like it
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Jennifer Berry
Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is a marvel! It reads like a gripping novel while packed with historical references, funny antidotes, and most importantly a practical game plan for change! Ms. Rodsky taps into the place where even the most liberated of women find it hard to fight: their own homes. This book will transform our current culture’s hold on female resource and give women and men back our most valuable comity: TIME. For anyone thinking about making a relationship with a true equality, this book is for you. ...more
Oct 25, 2019 rated it liked it
I thought this was really fascinating and really a helpful way to think through the challenge of running a household in partnership.
Dec 24, 2019 rated it it was ok
I read this on a recommendation from a young mom who liked it. Perhaps I am too old to get anything from this book, but it was so annoying to read. It felt like just a long list of complaints of doing too much. Don't get me wrong, I am all about equalizing housework and it's something my spouse and I have argued about for years, but this approach seems like the absolute wrong way to go about it. It seems excessively aggressive and fight-y and high strung. Her approach to her spouse seems pretty ...more
Aug 27, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Anyone who has been in a relationship where they are sharing their lives under one roof will find something of interest in Fair Play. I can't speak for everyone, but for most of my friends and my relationship, the scale never seems balanced when it comes to taking care of the place called home(and the children or fur babies). Fair Play presents a plan for a more even distribution of the myriad of tasks that have to be dealt with on an ongoing basis. It is written in a thought-provoking and ...more
Ericka Clouther
This book is only for two-parent homes struggling to find a balance in at-home responsibilities. There were a lot of things it left unaddressed- such as workaholic spouses, or as numerous reviews stated, any kind of lower-class home (where for example maybe one person works a night shift). If you want it only for that very limited area, it's helpful.

I happen to have a husband who is not only doing a fair amount but might also be doing an equal amount (or more?). But one thing I've noticed in my
Meredith Mara
Nov 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
4.5/5 stars :) Brilliant. Brilliant. Brilliant.
Breanne Tuttle
Nov 01, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I picked this up bc it was the Reese Witherspoon pick for October. My sis skimmed it and told me I could skip it, even though we are reading all the RW picks. It’s solely focused on moms with kids. This is not me. If I got anything from skimming the first few pages of this book, it’s that everyone’s time is valuable and my valuable time should be spent on a book I’ll enjoy more.
Monica Leed
Jun 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing
My friend Julie, a mom and business owner said recently, "If I lean in any more, I will fall over." It stuck right to the heart of what so many women I know are dealing with as they strive for balance in career and family, always on the brink of falling off the edge. What if we had the opportunity to balance the scales at home? What if my husband and I decided to plan out the division of labor at home before we had kids? What if I could actually quantify my domestic workload and give my husband ...more
#ReeseWitherspoon Book Club October 2019 pick

I listened to about 50% of this self-help audiobook and just couldn’t take it any more. Too much anger and talk of “unicorn space”! It’s actually quite sad that modern relationships have become so petty — couples trying to one-up each other.
Jillian Doherty
Jun 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Seriously - whether you're married or cohabitating, child-free, gay or straight - there is something in this book for every relationship - give it a try to see why it's going to be a total game changer!

Eve Rodsky created the Fair Play system in response to her own struggle to balance work and family life with her two children. Rodsky has worked with 500+ couples from all walks of life to develop its core principles - bringing a wealth of perspectives and accessibility.

I love this book!
Christine Fitzgerald
I have mixed feeling about this book. So many of the sentiments Eve said rang true to my life as a full time working mother who holds 87 cards and somewhere keeps the family afloat. At the same time, I felt this was a little silly... a card game to play with husband to make sure I wasn’t the one doing all the work? So my takeaway is that even if I don’t use the fair play cards or card game, it’s got me starting the discussion with husband on how to share some of responsibilities, it also has me ...more
Michal Cohen-Rodsky
Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
After having kids, I found myself being swallowed up in this new life. I felt miserable, lonely, frustrated but eager to achieve balance at home and in my personal life. Eve’s game changing plan is simple and straightforward and can work for any couple open to change. Why not take the framework of running a company and apply it to life at home. Everyone has a role and together we work as a team to carry the load. Thank you Eve!!
Isley Forrester
Sep 05, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I enjoyed! Hubs needs to read it!!
Sarah Cooper
Made some good points but mostly made me depressed about the never-ending-ness of all of this.
Emily at Reaching While Rooted
So this book just didn’t apply to my experiences. Most of the premises were things I find my husband and I naturally do in an effort to split labor, so I guess that makes me a lucky girl? I enjoyed the premise of the book, and that BOTH people need a unicorn space to be fulfilled, and in our early years of marriage it would have given me the words and approaches to split the work/ask for help without all the fights and tears that accompanied it. I especially liked the concept that all time is ...more
Gisselle Diaz (gissellereads)
Nov 05, 2019 rated it really liked it
One topic I’m very passionate about is how couples make things work at home. It’s something that our friend group talks about often and I’m always interested in how couples do things differently and the impact it has. When I saw this was Reese Witherspoon book club pick for October I had to read it. For context I’m not married, don’t have kids but live with my boyfriend and I am career oriented. I wanted to see if the Fair Play approach could be something that would work for “childless” couples. ...more
Ian Nel
Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Fair Play is not just a book; it is a revolutionary How to guide for parents, couples, and literally anyone who has cohabitated with another person. A lot of scholarly and literary work has already discussed the gendered division of domestic labor, but Eve Rodsky goes beyond identifying the obvious inequities and delineates an ingenious system (Fair Play) where everybody truly wins.

Fair Play's massive bibliography is also a testament to how well researched the book is and demonstrates how much
Sep 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is a revolutionary book that not only puts into perspective the amount of hidden work that typically one partner is by default assigned (usually the female) but also provides you with an insanely detailed solution to help even out the responsibility meter. I won this book as a part of Goodreads Giveaway and will be recommending this read to everyone in a partnership so they too can maybe benefit from the painstaking research that author Eve did and then honed into a 'game' of sorts. This ...more
Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Eve Rodsky tackles the division of housework - a major source of conflict within many marriages - with a refreshingly clear, workable set of solutions that both partners can embrace. She has done the research, interviewing hundreds of couples and diving into the academic literature to validate her approach. Her book adopts principles from business management and psychology to settle the perennial question, "Who's doing the dishes tonight?" Not only does she explain how couples can achieve a ...more
Kathleen Bianchi
I won this book in a Goodreads contest. It is an absolutely great way for most women to do a fair share of the care of a household/childcare. Of course, you have to have a man that isn't stuck in the 1950s. Like my husband was in the 1970s, lol. I thought of my daughter the entire time I was reading this book She has an incredibly demanding job and then comes home and does most of the household stuff. The author explains that it isn't how much money your time is worth but that time is equal to ...more
Melissa Wells
Oct 17, 2019 rated it liked it
Fair Play had some interesting ideas. I like the concept of delegating the entirety of tasks (conception, planning, execution), but she’s too rigid in her insistence that all tasks should always work like that. The unicorn space is also an interesting concept, but I disliked the threat that if you didn’t come up with one quick you would become boring and your husband would divorce you lol. The “which type of husband” is yours quiz had terrible choices! Like no ‘my husband is a ...more
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Eve Rodsky is working to change society one marriage at a time with a new 21st century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of childrearing and domestic life responsibilities regardless of whether they work outside the home.

In her forthcoming book Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live), she uses her Harvard Law School
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