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Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (And More Life to Live)

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A revolutionary, real-world solution to the problem of unpaid, invisible work that women have shouldered for too long.

It started with the Sh*t I Do List. Tired of being the "shefault" parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family -- and then sent that list to her husband, asking f
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Kindle Edition, 352 pages
Published October 1st 2019 by G.P. Putnam's Sons
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Justin
Jan 24, 2020 rated it it was ok
My wife and I have accidentally created our own little book club this year. We’ve read The Power as well as Catch and Kill at the same time, engaged in some pretty awesome conversations, and then she insisted I read Fair Play as well.

Fair Play is written for a very specific audience, and it’s also written for women. More specifically, it’s written for moms, and, even more specially, it’s written for moms with husbands and kids. I’m sure partners with or without kids could find value here as wel
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lisa
Aug 31, 2019 rated it it was ok
An interesting book, and somewhat comforting to read. As a DINK I don't have a lot of these issues talked about in the book, but it has struck me that even though I have a full time job, with a half hour commute on either end, I end up doing all the housework, grocery shopping, meal execution, household repairs, budgeting, etc. while my husband uses his spare time to volunteer, attend political forums, have coffee "meetings" with every mover and shaker in the city, and play on his Ipad. And get ...more
Moira
Oct 02, 2019 rated it it was ok
This is the October @reesesbookclub selection. As a single woman who lives alone, I did not relate to this book. I find this to be such a miss for RBC as it really alienated me. This was clearly a vanity project for the author and I disliked the tone of several of her statements. I found the game to be confusing, and so much of it is based on your perceived opinions of your partner that I can’t imagine this would actually go over well. Maybe if I was at a different point in life this book would ...more
Alexis Jemal
Aug 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Before reading Fair Play, I wondered what would happen to my children if I died. Would they grow up in squalor, never having their hair combed and teeth brushed, or clean clothes to wear? Would they never see the doctor or dentist again for their regular check-ups? After reading Fair Play, I realized that of course not…my kids would be absolutely fine, because my husband is a reasonable and smart man, and thus, he would simply remarry.

Simply stated, Fair Play is about equitably restructuring th
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Snem
Oct 10, 2019 rated it did not like it
I’m hesitant to say too much about this or rate it because I’m not the intended audience. As such I’m surprised Reese Witherspoon would select a book that alienates a large percentage of her book club readers. This book did make me appreciate all that parents, in particular moms, do. If I didn’t want kids or marriage before I certainly don’t want it now. This sealed the deal.

This is hetero-normative and gendered to the hilt and that’s a real missed opportunity. While same sex couples are mention
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Marie Comeau
Oct 08, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2019
Picked up this book because of Reese’s bookclub. Although there was obviously a lot of research done and she does point out some good points. It sounds like she wants to impose this “game” to their marriage, delegate while still supervising tasks instead of making the relationship a true partnership.

What gave this book only two stars was the tone.
Men are trash, woman are superior. Husband, if you don’t play this game, our whole marriage is at risks. She also make you put labels on yourself and y
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Nicole Chinnici
I first discovered Fair Play when browsing through Bustle and was intrigued by the concept of a system that gamifies the distribution of household work to achieve better balance. Curious to find out more, I immediately requested a copy from my library.

The premise of Fair Play is that all household related tasks are turned into cards to create a deck that is customized to your family, and then those cards are dealt (and re-dealt) as needed to establish who will be in charge of each task. It break
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Jordyn  Gier
Oct 21, 2019 rated it did not like it
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Kaytee Cobb
Nov 14, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: library, non-fiction
I thought this was interesting but ocelot idealistic. I think it would be useful for two full time working patents to go through this game together and play, but for SAHM, which Rodsky says she is also (mostly?) talking to, I think the most important message here is: make time for self care, adult relationships, and "unicorn space". And have your partner get on board with that. There, i just saved you having to read this book. ...more
Genevieve Trono
Sep 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
If you follow me on social media, you know I have been going on and on about Fair Play but I am just so excited about it. I love parenting books, I love self-help and relationship books and as soon as I saw the premise of this I knew I needed to read it ASAP!

The adjustment to parenthood did not happen super easily for us both personally and in our relationship together. It was a huge transition and we struggled in many ways as we navigated our new roles and expectations of one another.

“On many d
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Erica Clou
This book is only for two-parent homes struggling to find a balance in at-home responsibilities. There were a lot of things it left unaddressed- such as workaholic spouses, or as numerous reviews stated, any kind of lower-class home (where for example maybe one person works a night shift). If you want it only for that very limited area, it's helpful.

I happen to have a husband who is not only doing a fair amount but might also be doing an equal amount (or more?). But one thing I've noticed in my
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Monica Leed
Jun 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing
My friend Julie, a mom and business owner said recently, "If I lean in any more, I will fall over." It stuck right to the heart of what so many women I know are dealing with as they strive for balance in career and family, always on the brink of falling off the edge. What if we had the opportunity to balance the scales at home? What if my husband and I decided to plan out the division of labor at home before we had kids? What if I could actually quantify my domestic workload and give my husband ...more
Suellen
#ReeseWitherspoon Book Club October 2019 pick

I listened to about 50% of this self-help audiobook and just couldn’t take it any more. Too much anger and talk of “unicorn space”! It’s actually quite sad that modern relationships have become so petty — couples trying to one-up each other.
Mehrsa
Dec 24, 2019 rated it it was ok
I read this on a recommendation from a young mom who liked it. Perhaps I am too old to get anything from this book, but it was so annoying to read. It felt like just a long list of complaints of doing too much. Don't get me wrong, I am all about equalizing housework and it's something my spouse and I have argued about for years, but this approach seems like the absolute wrong way to go about it. It seems excessively aggressive and fight-y and high strung. Her approach to her spouse seems pretty ...more
Jennifer Berry
Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is a marvel! It reads like a gripping novel while packed with historical references, funny antidotes, and most importantly a practical game plan for change! Ms. Rodsky taps into the place where even the most liberated of women find it hard to fight: their own homes. This book will transform our current culture’s hold on female resource and give women and men back our most valuable comity: TIME. For anyone thinking about making a relationship with a true equality, this book is for you. ...more
Breanne T
Nov 01, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I picked this up bc it was the Reese Witherspoon pick for October. My sis skimmed it and told me I could skip it, even though we are reading all the RW picks. It’s solely focused on moms with kids. This is not me. If I got anything from skimming the first few pages of this book, it’s that everyone’s time is valuable and my valuable time should be spent on a book I’ll enjoy more.
Renee
Aug 27, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Anyone who has been in a relationship where they are sharing their lives under one roof will find something of interest in Fair Play. I can't speak for everyone, but for most of my friends and my relationship, the scale never seems balanced when it comes to taking care of the place called home(and the children or fur babies). Fair Play presents a plan for a more even distribution of the myriad of tasks that have to be dealt with on an ongoing basis. It is written in a thought-provoking and engag ...more
Janssen
Oct 25, 2019 rated it liked it
I thought this was really fascinating and really a helpful way to think through the challenge of running a household in partnership.
Christine Fitzgerald
I have mixed feeling about this book. So many of the sentiments Eve said rang true to my life as a full time working mother who holds 87 cards and somewhere keeps the family afloat. At the same time, I felt this was a little silly... a card game to play with husband to make sure I wasn’t the one doing all the work? So my takeaway is that even if I don’t use the fair play cards or card game, it’s got me starting the discussion with husband on how to share some of responsibilities, it also has me ...more
Sarah Cooper
Made some good points but mostly made me depressed about the never-ending-ness of all of this.
Meredith Mara
Nov 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
4.5/5 stars :) Brilliant. Brilliant. Brilliant.
Mary
I appreciate what Rodsky is trying to do, but so much of this feels like overkill to me. There's really no need for a game this complicated--it's clearly the author's passion project, but it's essentially just a tool to help couples communicate better. I found much of her approach to be a.) frustratingly heteronormative and b.) frustratingly infantilizing of men (and enabling of this kind of infantilization, which feels like a double whammy). Maybe my husband and I are a bit of a unique situatio ...more
Jasmine
Sep 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
The most important thing to note about this book is that it is for women who live with a man (married, most likely) and have one or more children. If that is you and you have the feeling that you are handling a bunch of unseen and unappreciated work around the house, READ THIS BOOK. *note: check out the website fairplaylife.com for her COVID times toolkit*

I was familiar with the concept of emotional labor and the unequal division of work (especially caregiving tasks--doctor's appointments, anyon
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Darby
Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Eve Rodsky tackles the division of housework - a major source of conflict within many marriages - with a refreshingly clear, workable set of solutions that both partners can embrace. She has done the research, interviewing hundreds of couples and diving into the academic literature to validate her approach. Her book adopts principles from business management and psychology to settle the perennial question, "Who's doing the dishes tonight?" Not only does she explain how couples can achieve a bett ...more
Kelley
Jan 26, 2020 rated it liked it
Too much filler; would have been better as an article. Also, I couldn’t listen to this on my way home, otherwise I would walk into the house seething at the unfairness of gender roles. This could have some helpful tools—we shall see.
Jillian Doherty
Jun 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Seriously - whether you're married or cohabitating, child-free, gay or straight - there is something in this book for every relationship - give it a try to see why it's going to be a total game changer!

Eve Rodsky created the Fair Play system in response to her own struggle to balance work and family life with her two children. Rodsky has worked with 500+ couples from all walks of life to develop its core principles - bringing a wealth of perspectives and accessibility.

I love this book!
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Michal Cohen-Rodsky
Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
After having kids, I found myself being swallowed up in this new life. I felt miserable, lonely, frustrated but eager to achieve balance at home and in my personal life. Eve’s game changing plan is simple and straightforward and can work for any couple open to change. Why not take the framework of running a company and apply it to life at home. Everyone has a role and together we work as a team to carry the load. Thank you Eve!!
Meredith McCaskey
Jul 04, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: nonfiction
In some ways I feel like I shouldn't write a review until my husband is done reading this book and we actually try implementing the Fair Play strategy in our household. But I'm going to go ahead and give it 5 stars anyway because I felt so affirmed in reading it. In the first few chapters there were a bunch of places I underlined and at one point I even scribbled in the margin, "Thank you thank you thank you Eve!!"

Your average middle class American wife/mom (and I believe that is the specific au
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Laura Gardner
Jan 28, 2020 rated it liked it
I gleaned a few ideas from this book, but it’s mostly fluff. A few thoughts: Some of the women in this book have true jerks for husbands. My husband is a Where’s the Butter? guy, but if we talk about him taking on a task at our weekly family council (yes, that’s a thing), then he does. Period. He can CPE it and I don’t need to worry. I didn’t need to know what each task entails. I know! I do most of them! Rodsky thinks that couples should get closer to 50/50 on household tasks... I think, howeve ...more
Travis Tucker
Nov 03, 2019 rated it did not like it
As a male, be prepared to be bashed in this book as the “doofy husband” of commercials. Eve seems to be resentful of her kids (for ruining her previously “perfect” life and career) but channels it to her husband. Her solution is a passive-aggressive (in the special way lawyers can only do) “system” of pointing out all the things each person should do and then micromanaging how they do them (“minimum standard of care”).

Do some research on Eve’s husband’s connection with Reese’s brand and you’ll s
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Eve Rodsky is working to change society one marriage at a time with a new 21st century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of childrearing and domestic life responsibilities regardless of whether they work outside the home.

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