Like millions of women, Eve Ensler has been waiting much of her lifetime for an apology. Sexually and physically abused from the age of 5 by ...more
Eventually, she broke away, and in 1996 she wrote “The Vagina Monologues,” one of the most celebrated plays of the 20th century. But before that, her father did everything he could to undermine her, humiliate her, poison her.
Although Ensler knew he never would, she waited for him to say ...more
Eve saved me- I swear to God because I wanted to kill him.
I was sharing with a friend this morning about this book before I had finished it. (44 minutes to go my Audiobook said)....
My guts had already been pulled apart and so twisted inside me - I had physical pain.
I was getting anxious- worried about this book ending. I wanted and didn’t want it to end. Eve coming on to speak was a BREATH OF FRESH AIR!!!
The man — ...more
After seeing Goodread's friend Elyes's emotional review on my feed this morning, decided to read this short work of non-fiction for myself and all I can say is....Whew! Am glad it's over!
What a monster! And I blame the mother just as much as "him" for staying in the relationship and allowing such tortuous and degrading treatment to her daughter.
To destroy a child's character and will through cruelty and violation all the way to causing hopelessness and self-destruction.......more
I believe reading this at age 18 is perhaps very ...more
My first thought is that I sincerely hope this book helps Eve Ensler to heal and helps others like her on their paths through trauma and recovery.
I'm a big fan of The Vagina Monologues, but this book with its conceit of an apology letter from her criminally abusive megalomaniac of a father is too odd, depressing, and difficult to digest. He is probably the most repugnant but eloquent narrator since Humbert Humbert. And while I understand this is the apology ...more
This is a courageous book even to undertake it is courageous. She has assumed a position speaking as him after he died 31y ...more
Powerful book in which the author imagines that her father who molested her at a young age, apologizes. Personally I think she gives him too much credit but if that helps her, who am I to say she's wrong. I'm sure it was cathartic for her to write it and it's a slim volume that can be read in one sitting if you choose. I especially liked the last line of the book.
And then, there are books like this. Purgative, emetic, debriding, excruciating, searing, piercing, tearing, corrective, necessary.
This was not an easy book to read. I had to stop at times to catch my breath and more than once I wished that I could scrub off my eyes and brain of what I had just read. Having said that, I am glad that I read this ...more
Full Book Review
"Our silence is our bond. The power of not telling, of not letting on, is the most ancient and powerful weapon in our arsenal."
What a TOUGH read. I'm so glad it's over, and I'm equally glad I read it.
There were so many times that I shut the book and had to physically walk away. I didn't want to finish it. I wanted to ...more
In this book which is written from the perspective of the author's abusive father, she tries to address what an effective apology looks like. It is an imagined but an ideal apology note for all the emotional, physical, and sexual abuse that he tortured that ...more
It is bold, brave, but also audacious and somewhat presumptuous with a lot of poetic justice on the POV.
It is sincere, visceral, but sometimes there are elements of purple prose or at least purple style, and I have to give the author the benefit of the doubt here as we do not know if it is her style that sometimes seemed excessive and too ...more
This book is intense, and hard, and heart wrenching, and empowering, and so many other things. Eve Ensler found a way to dig into her knowledge of her father and herself and create a letter of apology from him to her, years after his death. He dealt her so many blows, loving her too deeply, then breaking her over and over.
This book should be labelled with a huge trigger warning. Sexual abuse, mental abuse, ...more
If this man had the character to offer this apology, would he have been a man able to treat her this way?
Of course, the conceit is that 30 years of purgatory have given him the time to reflect. But it feels too much like putting her words into her mouth. I hope it helped her, but I'm left with the feeling that we'll never truly know why our abusers did what they did or how they felt while they were doing it. That's what makes ...more
I should say - it's a horrifying read. While beautifully written, the account from her father's perspective made me feel sick to my stomach - as it should. I actually couldn't get through it.
This book is hard to read if you're not ready to. I wasn't - I just want to make this review to warn others of that, but to also thank the author writing such an honest, revealing and terrifying account of abuse.
Beyond the most grim scenes of torture and sexual abuse, the author describes the horrific childhood of her father. She attempts to explain why he was so destructive as a parent. Ensler shares that her grandparents ...more
The Apology is more than just forgiveness, it's empowerment, it's courage, it's strength, it's life.
For survivors of abuse it's about acknowledgement, validation, and moving forward in reclaiming a life that was stolen.
As a survivor of abuse myself I know this pain, I know this heartache, I know the emotional roller coaster but I also know ...more