Uncomfortable Labels: My Life as a Gay Autistic Trans Woman
In this candid, first-of-its-kind memoir, Laura Kate Dale recounts what life is like growing up as a gay trans woman on the autism spectrum. From struggling with sensory processing, managing socially demanding ...more
I was sent an eARC of this book through Netgalley, in exchange for my honest review.
As a queer and autistic reader, I was very excited to be able to review this title. Since autistic people are statistically more likely to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, it was very interesting to see this intersection of identities highlighted and explored.
Of course, Dale's experience is different from my own in a lot of ways, because every autistic person will have a different experience, ...more
I got an ARC of this book.
The title and the cover drew me in. Just that play on words and all the feelings that it brought up was enough to sell me on this book. I again didn't read the description before I read the book. I was delighted to get a memoir that hit so many notes that I needed and wanted to see in the world.
This is the sort of memoir that I will be waving at people, demanding that they read it. I have started to reach out more and more ...more
I was given an e-Advanced Reader Copy of this novel through Netgalley. Many thanks to Netgalley and the Publisher for the opportunity to do so!
Laura Kate Dale’s Uncomfortable Labels: My life as a Gay Autistic Trans Woman summarizes her life as a child through an adult, covering both her transition, diagnosis of being on the Autism Spectrum and her discovery of being gay. She talks about no only everyday things that are involved that are being part of ...more
by Laura Kate Dale
Jessica Kingsley Publishing, UK
5.0 / 5.0
I was so deeply touched by this memoir of growing up as a trans, autistic and gay person in the UK. I was completely blown away by Lauras honesty and integrity, by her memories and experiences, some so emotionally and psychically hurtful. Many times intentionally hurtful. To get beyond it and to have become the beautiful and inspiring woman and soul she is, is ...more
But wow, am I glad this story seemed to find me through netgalley. This is a powerful story, and one I think that will be important for many many people to read. Spoiler alert: if you are even mildly thinking of picking up this book.. Do it. You ...more
Laura was born with autism in a male presenting body. She tried and tried to reconcile her outward presentation with her inner feelings to no avail. She thought perhaps it was her autism causing the disconnect until finally, she realized that she was ...more
Dale's book is a very honest look back at her childhood, and the various traumas and joys growing up as trans and autistic entailed for her. It was really interesting to see this part of someone I've been admiring from afar. ...more
So. This book isn't bad, per se. It was a quick read, largely because of the informal, conversational tone of the author, and I definitely feel like I learnt a lot from it. This sort of book is so timely and necessary. We all need to understand one another better, and there really is no better way to foster empathy than by reading and listening to the actual words of others and their lived experiences. I'm genuinely ...more
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Update July 21, 2019
I don't read nonfiction often, but I couldn't pass this one up when I saw it on Netgalley. Uncomfortable Labels is Laura Kate Dale's autobiography about her life as a gay autistic trans woman.
› In Uncomfortable Labels, Laura Kate Dale says this book is one she wished she could have read...more
There were times when I ...more
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This memoir was starkly written and a real eye opener for both issues of being autistic but also transgender and gay. I had never really thought about what it would be like to fall into multiple categories and how each would affect the other.
The abuses she suffered and suffers are multiple and horrible and it’s important for us all to face that these things happen to many people ...more
I was provided an ARC via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
This book was the memoir of 27 year old Laura Kate Dale. It was about her struggles as a transgender, gay, autistic woman but also her hopes and joy.
I thought her story was an significant one to tell and to hear. I found it deeply moving and interesting but I had trouble concentrating. The way it was told didn't really excite me I guess and I had trouble getting through the whole thing even though it's only a ...more
I always thought I was alone. I never had anyone to tell me my experiences made sense to them. I never had anyone else's experiences available as evidence that what I was experiencing was real. That's why I'm writing this book; it's the book I wish I'd been able to read when I was younger.
The highly personal nature of memoirs, especially ...more
Before I really delve into the review, I have to say I love the cover. Such a simple, yet eloquent metaphor with an aesthetically pleasing execution. I can practically feel the itchiness of the tag on my neck looking at it. I don’t read much non-fiction these days, but I’m glad I made an exception for this book. If you want an in-depth, ...more
Laura Kate Dale's writing brings her experiences to this book with the same raw honesty that we see from others who are part of a plethora of people who have found a home on the internet. Laura has a gaming channel, a podcast and a career in gaming journalism. She is greatly respected in her field.
In her book she talks about all aspects of her life including the success she has ...more
She's autistic, so she has to expend more effort to fit in smoothly with the allistic people around her.
She's English, so fitting in smoothly is of more importance generally. (I should point out that she doesn't speak of being English as a salient challenge, but readers from more gleefully iconoclastic parts of the Anglosphere will project that onto ...more
I have to say, I feel honored by being let into the authors life. This book is very raw, real, and powerful. Her writing pulled me in nearly right away and when I read this, I needed to keep on reading it. This book was really insightful and really gave me an understanding of the trials and tribulations of their live with being transgender as well as having been diagnosed on the autism spectrum.
On top of sharing their story, the writing was wonderfully and refreshingly honest. This ...more
But back to basics. This is a memoir written by Laura Kate Dale, a woman who was diagnosed with autism in her late teens, and came out as trans soon after. Her clear portrayals of how she experiences the world and the people in it, ...more
In this book, Laura explores the labels she has been assigned by birth, by others and those she chose herself. It’s a powerful, soul-baring book by a trans autistic woman who has struggled with a lack of belonging (of “fitting in”) for as long as she can remember. It’s deep, it’s moving, and actually I learned a lot from reading this book. I’m sure that hers is a ...more
An amazing read, as a nonbinary person I was really thrown by her recollections of seeing how girls were treated growing up and identifying with that. I remember being a teenager and thinking I wasn't a girl so maybe I was a boy? And then throwing out that option as well: so seeing that same journey through a binary-trans person's perspective was ...more
I find it really hard to rate memoirs as it’s not like you can rate someone’s life so I rate more based on quality of writing and my interest level.
Laura talks about her experience from childhood knowing that she didn’t fit with the masculine presenting mould that she was pressured into filling.
She also talks about how living with autism and having gender dysphoria is common but is often overlooked or ignored by doctors as they assume it is an obsession/fixation or that they are not of ...more
When the book descends into the particular, and the author gives examples of how the issues have affected her rather than talking in generalities it gets really interesting, unfortunately this doesn't happen enough. Time and time again ...more
Imagine growing up on the autism spectrum, having to navigate a world that isn't set up for the way that you work. Imagine also being a trans-woman, having to figure out how to communicate your bodily and medical needs and exist in the LGBT space which isn't always autism friendly.
Laura's story was fascinating and I loved being able to take a look into her life and how being a Gay Autistic Trans Woman has shaped her life and made ...more
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