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3.61  ·  Rating details ·  159 ratings  ·  36 reviews
Madison Young has had a lot of daddies in her life. From the fraught relationship with her biological father to "leather daddies" of the adult and BDSM communities, Daddy explores Young's interwoven relationships with each of them and the sex positive values that she teaches and lectures on across the country at Yale University, Berkeley University, Good Vibrations, Smitte ...more
Paperback, 280 pages
Published October 8th 2013 by A Barnacle Book
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Feb 06, 2014 rated it did not like it
I found the writing and editing ok, but the book left me flat and disinterested and didn't cover what the blurb promises: "Madison Young has had a lot of daddies in her life. From the relationship with her biological father to "leather daddies" of the adult and BDSM communities, Daddy explores Young's interwoven relationships with each of them and the sex positive values that she teaches and lectures on."

The book briefly mentions Young's childhood, mostly her mother and father fighting about hi
Michael E.
Feb 12, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: sex positive people, psychology lovers,
Recommended to Michael by: Madison Young
It’s 1050pm on February 17th, 2014. I just finished the autobiography of Madison Young. Ms. Young has been an indirect part of almost my entire adult life, for reasons that may make people uncomfortable.

There is an old saying that means we should never get to know our heros, because we will be disappointed by their flaws, autobiographies are windows into meeting those heros. But they will be skewed to their perspectives, to make them shine in in a certain way.

That is not a knock on this book h
Feb 23, 2014 rated it it was ok
Shelves: memoir, 2014
I received a copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for a review.

(2.5 stars)

In her memoir Daddy, Madison Young explores the path she has taken as a feminist conceptual artist and adult entertainer and the role that her sexual politics has played in informing her career and personal choices. Young began her career as a sex worker as a means of subsidizing the costs of running her now defunct art gallery and performance space, Femina Potens, but quickly found a home in San Francisco's kink/B
In the last chapter of the book, Madison Young, speaking to her therapist, asks "what if people hate it? People are going to hate me. Feminists won't understand why I stayed. Why I believe in Daddy." Her therapist replies, "people are flawed... I think people will find it honest and brave and relatable"

I definitely didn't hate it. It brought a range of emotions, that's for sure. As Young warns in her epilogue, the book was, a times, pretty triggering for me. There were parts I found relatable, a
N.K. Layne
Mar 13, 2016 rated it liked it
Shelves: erotic, memoir, 2016
Daddy is a memoir about Madison Young, porn-actress&director, sex educator, and art curator. Thematically, the through line this book keeps going back to is Madison's search for her Daddy. However, Madison proves herself to be a very independent person with her own work, passions, and interests that are also explored in the space of this book. She owns her own art-gallery in San Francisco, for example, where she features feminist and queer voices. She finances the gallery through sex work, prima ...more
Shelly Moore
Mar 11, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Madison Young’s Daddy, a memoir, is an irresistible invitation to engage in the beautiful complexities of her personal unearthing of and journey through identity versus persona; drive and motivation; fantasy and forgiveness; and heroism of every dimension. Beauty runs through every vein in this book, cover to cover, word by word.

I initially found myself magnetically intrigued by the strangeness and distance of her world, a voyeur into a mysterious land of fetish scenes, sexual slave training and
Michael J.
Mar 09, 2014 rated it it was amazing
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Jun 24, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2020
This book needed a different editor. The writing is good and even very good in places, but too many important things are glossed over. In fact all the major tension like serious relationship problems and issues with production companies are just mentioned, then discarded, and then pages later you find somehow everything resolved itself. In the end you're left going, "the last we heard he had a drug problem and abandoned her, and now they're just FINE?!"
So that part of it is not great. But there
Aug 10, 2019 rated it it was ok
This book really bummed me out. The author is an artist/sex worker/pornographer but much of this book was about what seems to be a codependent relationship with her husband. Throughout the book she's upset with him and yet never seems to examine their relationship or her decisions with significant depth. The book is also over-written. Maybe my expectations of a woman who has been called a "feminist porn icon" were too high, but I was disappointed.
Jan 24, 2014 rated it liked it
When we read what we read here at Nom de Plume, we come across some pretty crazy stuff. Some of it is way outside our wheelhouse, and that's where it's going to stay, in all probability, and that's just fine, either way. Whatever. But with that stuff, because we don't have any practical experience with it, we tend to be a bit sceptical. Does the author have any experience with it either? Can we trust her or him to give us an accurate depiction of that type of kink or relationship or -- oh gawd, ...more
Feb 06, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I found the writing and editing ok, but the book left me flat and disinterested and didn't cover what the blurb promises: "Madison Young has had a lot of daddies in her life. From the relationship with her biological father to "leather daddies" of the adult and BDSM communities, Daddy explores Young's interwoven relationships with each of them and the sex positive values that she teaches and lectures on."

The book briefly mention's Young's childhood, mostly her mother and father fighting about h
Lisa M.
May 10, 2016 rated it it was ok
I took a trip to New York City and stayed at the Orchard Street Hotel (it was beautiful!) The hotel is located near the legendary Bluestockings book store, which I have always wanted to visit. This was one of the books I picked up. I wanted to get a first eye account/guide to BDSM culture. The back of this book was misleading.

I thought this book was extremely brave. Young is open about her relationship with her own father, which like many, isn't perfect. Memories of her childhood are woven with
Katrina Griffiths
Feb 20, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: kink
If you know nothing about the world of Kink and porn you might not know who Madison Young is. You might not be able to fully appreciate the book and things in it might bother you. However, as a story its amazing to see the trials that Madison went through to get to where she is today.

When I got this book I knew very little about Madison. I had seen interviews, followed her workshops and saw her appearance on Training of O with James Mogul which she talks about in the book. Her spot with James o
Feb 28, 2014 rated it liked it
Definitely feel mixed about this memoir. It starts off strong with insights into Young's art, work and relationships with family, other artists and her partners--and she really bares her soul, which almost always makes an interesting memoir. Very intimate details about her relationships are given, with some thought, but something about the style of writing left me wanting a good deal of the time. The book begins and ends with much self-examination, and these are the parts I liked the best. The b ...more
Twila Beverly
Feb 26, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I loved it. Simply tore right through it. I always saw this woman as this irresistible sex goddess of indie porn. I knew she was a feminist....what I didn't exspect was to be able to relate to her so well. From the way she was raised in Ohio, to the complicated family feel yourself walking her path along side her. Her adventures become your own. As she finds herself not only as a sex worker in indie porn films, you watch as she some how commingles her feminist self, and tackles th ...more
Apr 04, 2014 rated it liked it
3.5 stars. I solidly enjoyed this book as a look inside of someone other than my own's head for the way we apologize for the ones we love. The main focus of this book is not so much her porn career as it is about her family dynamic and relationship with her partner (who is also an adult performer, so, yes, the porn industry is the setting, but not the overall point.) Some people may frown upon this effort. Madison's relationship with her partner is abusive in several ways; there are some truly h ...more
Johanna Sawyer
Jan 29, 2014 rated it really liked it
I thought the book started out well but I really didn't know anything about the author so Google helped me out. I would of thought this would have been a major introduction flaw since I had to google it. So then I learned this girl was a porno star turned submissive for this guy James Mogul. I'm interested at this point because she is living the kind of life she dreams of, and is obviously doing great with it. The story from here gets a little murky. She climbs into her past to when her father l ...more
Leandra Vane
I liked this book. I respect Young's honesty and think there are many parts of her story that should be shared with people both within and beyond the kink community. However, I felt sections of the prose could have been more polished. The dialogue at times sounded clumsy, a common woe for many memoirs. Overall this was a quick read. It was like she was telling me her story from across the table, and the accessible voice will be appreciated by many readers.

I must admit reading this book shook me
Apr 27, 2015 rated it really liked it
I've followed Madison Young's porn, educational & art work and (defunct) Live journal for many years now - and I'm absolutely fascinated by her. I adore her unflinching honesty and her bravery, ESPECIALLY since she's become a mother. The way she puts herself out there, for so many years now and through triumphs and crises- that is so very, very rare and unbelievably courageous.

So this book was a real treat for me. I feel I've gotten to know her even better.

Overall this book felt really raw, as
Apr 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
I had to give this 4 starts mostly bc I read it in 2 days so I can't say I didn't totally enjoy it. If you're familiar with Madison Young's work you'll guess this is a memoir about her life and work as a feminist pornographer/BDSM artist and performer. It's also a romance though, and for me that's where it fell a little flat. Parts of the book read like VC Andrews or a harlequin romance novel--just over the top and silly. There are too many goofy literary embellishments and odd remembrances of d ...more
Dec 15, 2014 rated it liked it
I am always looking for ways to expand my consciousness and understanding of sexual and gender politics, and thus I picked up this book having never heard of Madison Young. I wondered how far a Daddy-Little Girl dynamic could be taken by a likeable, feminist entrepreneur? I found some parts of the book very hard to read, as it reveals how the abject suffering of actual slaves and prisoners in our world is reflected back in sexual expression and claimed for joy and pleasure by willing participant ...more
May 26, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: kindle
A compelling "mini-history" lesson of the alternative lifestyle community in SF from someone who was there at the beginning of the current century to it's recent end (?), as well as her own journey from childhood to maturity. Stylistically I found the time-jumping in the narrative hard to keep track of throughout, but her acceptance of her life decisions and appreciation of those who read along so far endeared me to her story even more at the end, and the author's voice was always honest and gen ...more
Sep 22, 2014 rated it liked it
This is not the type of book that I usually read, however something about the author drew me in and I had to know more about her. Why would a strong, smart, funny and independent women need to have a dominant male partner in her life? After reading this memoir I think I can see the reasons behind her choices and was even able to connect with her on some level. This is not a book for everyone, but one that I enjoyed reading.
May 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
I was pleasantly surprised with the high writing quality. I stayed fascinated getting to know what a complex, talented and driven person Madison Young is. Would recommend to all of the freaks, artists, sex-positives and kinksters in my life. It certainly inspired me to own who I am and follow my bliss.
Kathi Berry
Feb 22, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
So Brave!

The thing is I love to read about women who make their dreams come true. But the bravery it took for Madison Young to write this story, makes this book for me somehow more than just inspirational. Her story about chasing her dreams is compelling, raw, and honest. I couldn't put it down.
Sep 30, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, memoir
I was not familiar with Ms. Young's career before I got this book as part of a package deal. It was interesting to read the vignettes of her experiences in the worlds of art and porn, less interesting to read of her midwestern childhood (maybe because I had one of those myself and hers wasn't woven into her later experiences in a way that felt it really needed to be in the book at all).
Jackie Cohen
While her footage is enviable (in the "Wow, I wish could handle that much confinement" sense of the term), Madison Young really should have worked with a ghost writer. Perhaps she could do that for the Kindle edition...
Sarah Maida
Oct 01, 2014 rated it liked it
Read this because I will reluctantly own up to watching the author on that ridiculous Bravo parenting show. It's kinda meh. Wish I could be more articulate about it but I don't have any strong feelings about it one way or another. It was ok. Best I can say about it.
Lance Nichols
A good book, very interesting, and easy read. I was a bit disappointed with the behaviour of James, and considered it a huge failing with the breakdown in communications he engineered.

Overall, an interesting view into the world of sex positive porn and consensual kink.
Feb 16, 2014 rated it did not like it
This book I did not. Seam to get the flow of it may is a book that I may need to reread at some point to try and find my interest in it .
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