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The Fantasy Bond: Effects of Psychological Defenses on Interpersonal Relations
This book offers a hypothesis centering around the concept of the "Fantasy Bond," an illusion of connection formed with the mother and later with significant others in the individual's environment.
Paperback, 408 pages
Published December 19th 1987 by Glendon Association
(first published June 9th 1985)
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In The Fantasy Bond, Dr. Firestone gives his theory - the fantasy bond - for why people behave in self-destructive ways. Specifically, he explores the mental illness of schizophrenia to illustrate how the fantasy bond works but does not limit his theory to schizophrenia alone. He gives a deep, well thought out explanation for his theory and does not mix in any sugar-coated garbage about finding happiness or getting more exercise. I enjoyed reading his book because he writes as one adult talking ...more
The first third of this book has the most compelling information as far as self-help or basic psychological theory is concerned. The rest comes across as pretty dated and is largely inessential, but it's a good resource for those interested in uncovering the roots of trauma.
This book was *mostly* excellent - super-dense, I had to read several sections two or three times to let them sink in. Fascinating insights into what motivates us in relationships and how our parental dynamics have lasting effects. Only reason I did not give it 5 stars was there are large sections about an "intentional community" that the author was a part of that was not really as informative/insightful as the rest of the book was - it was more of a case study of a group of families towards the ...more
A heavy text on the powerful structures of the mind that keep using psychological defenses long after they're helpful, and even despite the fact that they're becoming hugely destructive to an individual's growth. Seems there is a new miraculous fact on every page -- and this is a lengthy book! I hope I can incorporate some of the wisdoms of this study into my life. A very important book.
“When children are hurt and in pain psychologically, they don't want to be in distress, so when the situation becomes intolerable, they cease to identify with themselves. When they feel the most threatened, they will choose to identify with the person who is the source of their suffering in an attempt to possess that person's strength.”
“people, both professionals in the field and lay people, are not fully aware of the extent to which human beings are directed and controlled by primal feelings. They underestimate the pain that is aroused by positive experiences in life. They cannot understand a person’s resistance to positive or corrective experiences and the negative reactions caused by genuine caring or concern. They do not recognize the fact that when people are responded to in a new, more positive way, it severs their bonds and cuts them off from their past. It makes them aware objectively that they were not loved or treated respectfully, that they were not listened to or responded to realistically or compassionately when they were young.”More quotes…