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The Fantasy Bond: Effects of Psychological Defenses on Interpersonal Relations

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This book offers a hypothesis centering around the concept of the "Fantasy Bond," an illusion of connection formed with the mother and later with significant others in the individual's environment.
Paperback, 408 pages
Published December 19th 1987 by Glendon Association (first published June 9th 1985)
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Jul 16, 2016 rated it liked it
In The Fantasy Bond, Dr. Firestone gives his theory - the fantasy bond - for why people behave in self-destructive ways. Specifically, he explores the mental illness of schizophrenia to illustrate how the fantasy bond works but does not limit his theory to schizophrenia alone. He gives a deep, well thought out explanation for his theory and does not mix in any sugar-coated garbage about finding happiness or getting more exercise. I enjoyed reading his book because he writes as one adult talking ...more
Feb 05, 2019 rated it liked it
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The first third of this book has the most compelling information as far as self-help or basic psychological theory is concerned. The rest comes across as pretty dated and is largely inessential, but it's a good resource for those interested in uncovering the roots of trauma.
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Feb 20, 2016 rated it really liked it
This book was *mostly* excellent - super-dense, I had to read several sections two or three times to let them sink in. Fascinating insights into what motivates us in relationships and how our parental dynamics have lasting effects. Only reason I did not give it 5 stars was there are large sections about an "intentional community" that the author was a part of that was not really as informative/insightful as the rest of the book was - it was more of a case study of a group of families towards the ...more
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Mar 20, 2008 rated it really liked it
A heavy text on the powerful structures of the mind that keep using psychological defenses long after they're helpful, and even despite the fact that they're becoming hugely destructive to an individual's growth. Seems there is a new miraculous fact on every page -- and this is a lengthy book! I hope I can incorporate some of the wisdoms of this study into my life. A very important book.
Dec 11, 2016 rated it it was amazing
This book drops truth bomb after truth bomb. I'm re-reading it and it's just spot on.
Sep 24, 2007 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: people with baggage
Feb 22, 2013 rated it it was ok
Very 70's feel to me. A lot of concepts are outdated and no longer considered authoritative. Interesting but didn't resonate.
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