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Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

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If you work nonstop without a break...worry about offending others and back down too easily...explain too much when asked for information....or "poll" your friends and colleagues before making a decision, chances are you have been bypassed for promotions and ignored when you expressed your ideas. Although you may not be aware of it, girlish behaviors such as these are sabo ...more
Paperback, 288 pages
Published June 7th 2010 by Business Plus (first published February 11th 2004)
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Laurie
Jun 14, 2011 rated it it was ok
This book had some useful advice, although I think it was over-generalized and really meant for women working at large "corporate America" type companies. As a female who just recently started a career at a small (but very successful) family-owned business, I don't feel like all of these rules necessarily apply to my situation.
But I had larger issues with this book.

First, I found that the author seems to use men's behavior as the standard for how the workplace should function. She frequently s
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Gwen
Mar 05, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: career
As cliched as it sounds, this book was a revelation to me. As a young feminist who is just starting out in her career, I was relatively certain that the professional world would have changed since Frankel wrote her book and that acting in a professional (yet reserved) fashion would be sufficient in today's workplace. Clearly, I was mistaken (although not as much as I thought).

Frankel first has the reader take a 49 question quiz, which is able to determine which of the eight areas are both your s
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Vivian
Apr 12, 2015 rated it it was ok
This book was exciting at first, but then turn to uncomfortable. First, It made me feel that being a Girl itself is a guilt, acting like a girl, thinking like a girl is not recommended in work place. So basically this book tell people "how to act like a man" because high positions are mostly held by man. If you "don't see a man do this, you should not do this" (!!!?!) . Second, it provide too many no right- no wrong recommend for both gender, but still emphasize only female worker often do this ...more
Wallace
Sep 13, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self-improvement
Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office 101 by Lois P. Frankel is a book that all women should receive upon graduation from college. It is amazing what we, the female gender, do to undermine ourselves without realizing it. Many of us, who come from homes that were supportive and definitely didn't pigeonhold us into the subservient female role, would never imagine how much we have picked up from the social cues and trends around us. Though, until recently, I would have not realized that I suffered ...more
Marie-Lise Theys
May 10, 2015 rated it did not like it
I did not like it, I felt like you have to fake it to make it. What about we change the corner office rather than changing women to fit in.
LuAnne Alexander
May 07, 2015 rated it it was ok
I felt that most of this book was a how-to for those who want to be a closed-minded corporate robot. Don't bring food to share at work? Don't have long hair? Well, men don't do it, so you shouldn't do it either. Speak at meetings the way men do: loud, confident and don't forget to be the first to speak and never the last. Respond to emails the way men do. Dress the way men do. Use social media the way men do (which means hardly ever). Try not to smile so much because men don't smile that much. I ...more
Anablava Ligataj
May 10, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: my-library
I must confess that I started this book with a lot of skepticism. I am a feminist and I do not like to be told what I need to change in order to fit to a men's world. I would always prefer to change the world.

Besides that, the fact that the heading of each mini chapter is always titled mistake # (and that goes on from mistake #1 - t0 mistake #300+) got my head fuming. It is direct yes, but also pretty arrogant.

Those two points aside, I would recommend every woman to read this book. Not only girl
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Kressel Housman
This is the first book I read from the bibliography of Anne Kreamer's It's Always Personal: Navigating Emotion in the New Workplace, and I found it much more skills-based and practical. The author's main theme is, "Quit being a girl," by which she means to toot your own horn and stand up for yourself because high quality work alone won't get you noticed and promoted. The corporate world is prejudiced against girls and can't envision them beyond the secretarial pool. Women, in contrast, get ahead ...more
Jaime
Nov 25, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I just finished reading this book in an effort to teach myself how to stop doing all of those little things that sabotage the advancement of my career. I'm not currently looking for a new job (even though I should be) but I'd still like to work on improving my skills and stop downplaying my abilities.

Things I already know: I act nice to get people on my side, meanwhile, forgetting about my own needs because I want everyone to like me. I also say "I'm sorry" a lot and don't know how to toot my ow
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MB (What she read)
Easy to read and some quite useful tips.

(It would be nice if someday, we, as a society, ever get to a time when men aren't advantaged in business by their sex and women didn't have to make themselves over just to get ahead.)
Meg
Sep 12, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I had an epiphany-like moment over and over again when Frankel points out that when people shame a woman for unladylike behavior, it's not because there is such a shameful thing as unladylike behavior, it's because it's the easiest and most effective means of getting whatever it is they want out of you.

Because we've been so conditioned to be pleasing to others, accusing a woman of behaving in an unpleasing manner is like an automatic shut off button that manipulative people use against us. Accu
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Rachel Smalter Hall
I loved this and I hated this. Lois P. Frankel is a total pragmatist, which can be tough for an idealist like me to swallow. Throughout "Nice Girls" she argues that women who want to get ahead in business have to learn to play by the rules created by white men in corporate America. We have to learn to live and play within that structure.

Yet I've always held onto this starry-eyed idea that we should be able to create lives for ourselves that honor who we are and what we value. And this is probabl
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Joanna
Feb 10, 2009 rated it really liked it
Another book with a tacky title that I have bypassed every time I've seen it. But browsing in the library one day I decided to give it a try and I'm glad I did. I always knew that I was a typical girl in finding it difficult to negotiate money, but I thought that was it. After reading through this book (which doesn't take long as you can easily skip over irrelevant sections), I have realized that I actually am making a bunch of 'mistakes' at work that are not benefiting my career. This book help ...more
Fiona Heath
Loved some of the advice. Some was cliche, some was quite old fashioned. Overall, I'm going to stop saying sorry, or offering to do menial tasks.
Stephanie
Jan 04, 2013 rated it liked it
Reading "Nice Girls" back in 2004 was a bit of a shock to me - an unpleasant one. So many of the negative behaviors Lois Frankel describes were things I did in the office on a regular basis. These behaviors were so ingrained in me: don't be too aggressive, apologize profusely for any misdeed, be grateful for any crumb tossed my way, and I sat with my foot folded under me ALL the time. I do agree with Frankel that it's difficult for women to get ahead by always being a "nice girl." Her book struc ...more
Heather
Self-help books aren't really my thing and the tone in this book is often condescending, like she's talking to people who are emotionally adolescents. That said, some of her points are great and no matter how much education in women's studies you or I or anyone has, the socialization we received as girls continues to cripple us in adult life. It's inescapable.

I'm not exactly a shrinking violet but I recognized myself in some of her examples. Recommended for women in industries dominated by men a
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Catherine Tsai
Jan 19, 2016 rated it did not like it
Shelves: womanism
There's some moderately useful gender-blind advice for how to handle sticky situations at work (conflict resolution, discussing promotions, not unduly taking blame, etc.), but much of the book's advice feels massively outdated despite the recent revision. (The latest version is titled "Nice Girls *Still* Don't Get the Corner Office").

Think: your well-meaning grandmother (but still your grandmother) trying to give you a boatload of career advice based on her life experiences. Sometimes she has a
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Selena Stan
Feb 06, 2016 rated it did not like it
I could not identify any real added value in this book. There are some common sense ideas, while other points are simply soaked with feminism.

I went through the book in hope of finding some rational advice to improve my business attitude. After around 10 randomly-chosen chapters I gave up...

Maybe the book would get a higher grade from less experienced readers (in their early twenties, for example). For seasoned business women, it's a waste of time.
Mandy
May 03, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was awesome. I wish I had read it years ago. It helps with every day life as well. this is not about what is wrong with men or women but rather practical advice for how to act and speak at work so that men will listen and we won't get upstaged. I suggest this for all women.
Alanoud
Sep 11, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Starting from the naïve socialization until sex discrimination, most women are way too far from achieving satisfactory successful career life. Lois Frankel addresses in this amazing book, Nice Girls Don't Get The Corner Office, 101 unconscious mistakes working women do that sabotage their careers. All of these mistakes are results of being socialized with stereotypical norms and roles. Lois's main argument is that women themselves are the ones who carry out the whole responsibility. If they hap ...more
Mary Ellen
Jul 29, 2014 rated it it was ok
My overall impression of this book was that it was advice from a few decades ago. Yeah, she updated it with, "Don't post and tweet stuff you'll regret." Brilliant. But she seemed like a grandmotherly voice to me and that made it difficult for me to take seriously.
That being said, I need to be honest. There is the world where I like to think that I work and where I actually work. I like to think that I'm building my career in a modern work environment where gender equality is assumed and diversi
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Kathrin
This was an interesting read and while I don't agree to all the points the author made I still have the impression of getting some valuable insights. However, since I don't work in a big company I believe that some parts of the book just didn't address me. There was definitely a point when I felt like 'I've heard that one before' but the author remained a little vague on what to do. But then, I don't expect someone to provide me all the answers.

The book was a good place to start and I'll most l
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Marcella
Jun 18, 2013 rated it it was ok
I need to clear out my library of unread books and am doing so by reading them. This one was given to me at a woman's leadership conference and so far falling short of the other book "Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman."

UPDATE
It was okay. Wouldn't recommend as there are definitely better books out there, but she said some true things and has some okay tips. I probably make the majority of the mistakes, but am not as bothered. The alternative feels unaccessable and not someone I'd like to work for
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Kathi
Mar 01, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
No. Just No. In my opinion the majority of the advice in this book perpetuates the inequality issue and encourages women to conform to acting like a man in order to be successful. This allows people to continue their inappropriate judgement of feminine behavior in the workplace. I liked the advice to be more confident and to not be afraid to speak up. I was physically angered by the chapter regarding long hair. I would NOT recommend this book to anyone.
Shruthi
Nov 05, 2015 rated it did not like it
I picked up this book because it was on a recommended list of books that every 20-something year old ambitious woman should read. What I liked about this book was that the advice was broken down into topics and did not exceed two pages per topic. This made it really easy to read. My main issue with this book is that I found the advice to be a little outdated.
Anne
Eye-opening how many "don'ts" women commit at work, myself being guilty of several noted in this book. Despite all this, I couldn't really identify with some of the things the author discussed and felt that if the branched out from just corporate/law/finance/Wall Street-esque industries and how women should conduct themselves in ANY business/work setting where men are the ones setting the field (ex. IT, consulting, STEM fields, etc) - it could have been more identifiable. Another thing I wish th ...more
Razan Alghriafi
Apr 26, 2020 rated it really liked it
“When your boss asks you to make a miracle, what do you do?”
Inevitably I receive one of three answers: “I laugh”; “I negotiate”; “I delegate it to a woman.”
That got me right in the heart!

I can say that this book is truly an eye-opener.
Because sometimes it won’t be about second-generation or gender bias, but it will be about how you decided to set your mind to!
Either to act extremely nice and let people get over you and opportunities pass you by, or to act as a rigorous woman.
And there’s a very t
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Adria Berry
Dec 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book made me think critically about my strengths & weaknesses and helped me identify areas in which I need to improve. The straight-forward nature of the author was a plus. I’d recommend it to all professional women. ...more
Emma
Jul 02, 2017 rated it liked it
I will definitely take some of these ideas on board! I really like the ideas about confidence and taking pride of your work, but also about putting yourself first. I think that this is something that I need to work on so I have added these notes to my work desk.
Aura
Written by top career coach L.P.Frankel, ‘101 mistakes’ aims to guide women away from the ‘act like a girl’ stereotypes taught to them as young ladies, which according to the author they carry onto womanhood.

The book begins with a self-assessment questionnaire to help you identify what your strengths and weakness are, so you can concentrate more on your weakness. Each section includes a case study and bullet pointed summaries to help you deal with each problem.

I liked that Frankel kept everythin
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Dr. Lois Frankel, President of Corporate Coaching International, a Pasadena, California consulting firm, literally wrote the book on coaching people to succeed in businesses large and small around the globe. Her books Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office and Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich are international bestsellers translated into over twenty-five languages worldwide. Stop Sabotaging Your Career, ...more

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