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Fear of Intimacy

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Written in a jargon-free style, this book shows how therapists can help identify and overcome the messages of the internal voice that fosters distortions of the self and loved ones. Related issues such as interpersonal ethics and the role of stereotyping are also discussed.
Paperback, 358 pages
Published January 1st 1999 by American Psychological Association (APA)
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Feb 03, 2009 rated it it was amazing
In reading this book, I came to understand how defensiveness becomes solidified, how the patterns of one's past can persist and interfere with the building of true connectedness with another person. Whether you might find Firestone's methods to build intimacy useful, he clearly explains how and why relationships become routinized, spontaneity disappears, and there is a loss of interest in one another. Just the recognition of one's stumbling blocks is useful in moving forward, no matter which met ...more
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Feb 17, 2016 rated it really liked it
An important book about some dynamics that occur in relationships. Technical and great for therapists or people interested in relationship psychology.
Apr 12, 2008 rated it it was ok
This book is definately interesting, but given his preface I am curious about his methods... It seems to come from a very psychoanalytic point of view. There do seem to be some valid conclusions, yet I am not convinced (yet) that they are universally applicable. I need to do more research on the book, the author, and his research.
Andrew Calderon
Aug 15, 2012 rated it really liked it
Given the shelf this book is in I obviously didn't finish it. However, I read more than half of it and I highly recommend it. It is a collection of articles by two psychologist that present relationships from a variety of vantage points.
Jul 14, 2008 rated it it was amazing
This book looks soooo cheesy but it is so incredible. Even if you aren't in a relationship, you'll learn a lot about yourself.
May 26, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: psychology
Interesting theories. Certainly the part about attachment theory is great, but a little cultish and compoundish.
Laura Chorba
Dec 21, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Interesting how it talks about activities like reading are barriers to our relationships with others.
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