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Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl

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Are you the Fallback Girl?

If you’ve ever found yourself in a relationship that feels and seemingly looks like one but you’re struggling with commitment or you’ve been in the ambiguous territory of a ‘casual relationship’, you’ve likely tried to change them, wondered what you ‘did’ to cause this, what you can do to win their love and commitment, or even whether you’re going
Kindle Edition, 468 pages
Published October 16th 2011 (first published 2008)
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Oct 29, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This was by far one of my top 5 life changing books I have EVER READ. I always say that one of my biggest downfalls is relationships. I tend to over think them, over compensate for the man’s short comings and blame the guy for my own issues. It wasn’t until recently that I realized that in all of these relationship issues, I was the common denominator. My lack of confidence in myself drew in Unavailable men. I was emotionally unavailable and by picking these guys that would either give me a whir ...more
Feb 27, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Natalie Lue is my savior. She is so honest and dedicated to help other women and men overcome the difficult dating and relationships culture we have now. She truly tells it like it is. No bullshit. If I could say that an author has saved my life, it would be her.
Susan Hug
Aug 21, 2012 rated it really liked it
I'd give it 5 stars if it wasn't such a slap in the face. If I had a daughter, I'd one day make her read this. It's an important book.
Oct 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Literally. Changed. My. Life. And my future. That is all. :) That's just all that needs to be said. Natalie needs to be awarded with some kind of Nobel prize, and I'm not even joking. <3
Tom Comey
Apr 15, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Don't be confused by the title - this book is a must read for men and women who find themselves in the same types of relationships with different people.
Colleen Barkley
Apr 22, 2012 rated it it was amazing
A definite must read book for all women! This book changed my perspective on so many things in my life, including my pending divorce. Fantastic book, and a life ( and self-esteem) saver!
Mar 08, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Empowering,intense and No bullshit guide to get over unavailable guys.This is a very heavy book that took me too long to finish because it is about all the baggage you carry "pun intended " as a fallback girl ,a girl who has low self-esteem and got issues to deal with that she always fall for unavailable guys who hurt her and break her heart over and over again and she is always around ,refusing to leave no matter how worse it gets .This book is A must-read for every woman because it will protec ...more
Vaishali Bhat
May 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Gosh,gut-wrenching read!! Author has done great work putting down words as nearly to real world as possible. Nothing bullshit, each chapter is full of Epiphany Moments.
Sep 30, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I stumbled upon Natalie's blog site, watched a few of her videos, and liked her angle enough to buy her first book! If you do choose to read this book I urge you to watch a video or two of hers first so you can envision her posh london accent and punchy sarcastic wit talking to you!

It tells you the truth about the choices that WE make when we go after a relationship. It's about the facts that you don't want to consider or are running away from blindly. Sometimes we get so caught up in the heate
Nov 01, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is Cruel to be Kind. Sure wish I had been taught this in Jr. High school.
May 09, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Should be required reading for all high school girls before they get out into the dating world. One of my favorite books ever.
May 04, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Sounds like the most dysfunctional superhero team ever
Ektoras (Ross)
Oct 29, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Despite some grammatical and syntax mistakes (the book reads like a rough draft at times which is why I knocked off a star), this book really cut through a lot of the dating and relationship insanity we engage in and made me rethink my own dating habits and past experiences. It almost in a way feels like coming out of rehab; you look at the way pop culture gives examples of relationships and ‘love’ in movies and music and you kind of have to laugh at the insanity of it all after reading this boo ...more
Nicole G.
Some solid advice here. Unavailable does not mean, necessarily, that the person you are after is not physically present. Unavailability can also stretch to emotional, as well. The book could have been a little shorter, however, as some of the middle part, with the descriptions of the various types of Mr. Unavailables, seemed redundant. In addition, this book did not appear to have had a proofreader. Poor grammar abounds - especially mistaking plurals for possessives, which is a personal peeve of ...more
Jun 07, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: healing
I don't know if the writer channeled this book, if she has been in therapy since birth or if it's just plain ole wisdom. This book is "spot on" was a painful read at times. Forces you to look at yourself and your issues that maybe you're (I'm) not ready to confront. It's a wordy book, lotsa words...but each necessary, there's no fluff here. It's a good - honest - necessary read for someone like me.

Definitely not a read-once and throw to the back of the closet book. This book will be a refer
Nov 25, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Highly recommend for women who are ready to stop blaming the men in their lives for not committing, and take a long hard look at themselves instead. Warning: as with most life-changing information, it can be more of a burden than it is a blessing if you're not ready to make changes.
Seymour Glass
Sep 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is probably the most important book I've ever read, and I don't say that lightly. Natalie Lue is a saint.
Krystal Monique
Jun 19, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self-help, favorites
A must read for young single ladies trying to date in today's world!!!
Lisa P.
May 25, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Great book! Lots of insights...
Feb 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: why-oh-why
It took me 3 years to fully finish this book. Not because books are hard but because there is a lot of content packed into these pages and it is gut wrenching. Slowly, paragraph by paragraph and chapter by chapter I would highlight and re-read. Sometimes I would highlight entire pages. My biggest issue in the single world is my naive disposition. I'm a blunt and honest person and most people especially in the dating world are not honest. There are games to be played and cues to be picked up and ...more
Sep 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: random-reads, romance
This book. It defined my relationship history to a tee. I've already read it twice and I plan to read the last chapter again until my level of availability goes up. It's not about fixing him. It's about fixing me and adjusting those things in me that allowed me to accept poor behavior and less than loving actions. I needed this book to speak to me and it did.
Oct 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
I liked this book and found it very helpful for anyone who might be struggling with this issue. It was a bit direct which could turn some people off and somewhat redundant and makes some strong assumptions. I do think it's with the read.
Gwen Stacy
Oct 24, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I love Natalie Lue and the Baggage Reclaim website. I had such a life changing epiphany about my involvement in unhealthy relationships and connections through the wisdom she shares on her many platforms. I highly recommend her stuff!
Oct 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I wanna thank the author for these wake up calls. Gosh, it's like an older sister shaking some sense into you when you desperately need it. She's not afraid to sum up shady behavior, whether it's my own or other's. Everytime I seem to fall off the emotionally healthy wagon I grab on to this book.
May 30, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: owned
This is a fantastic book and I highly recommend it for anyone who sees themselves repeating patterns that they don't like. This is eye opening and will help anyone to recognise their patterns and make any much needed changes.
Sep 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: relationships
Love this book so much - will definitely read it again and have recommended it to others. Is it possible to be of these types?? o.O
Oct 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
The best book to learn the signs of emotionally unavailable men. But also very helpful how you can change and work on yourself!
Sanja Ireland
Jan 10, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Good book, a bit hectic with all the invented "categories" divisions and text structure, but overall okay.
alessandra bosi
Apr 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great book, glad I read it

Clever, easy to read. Full of inspirations. Reading this book, I open my eyes to some uncomfortable facts. Just what I needed to do!
Angelica Zenteno.
Sep 05, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Good book.
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“If you keep putting your bucket down an empty well then yes it is going to feel like very hard work, but it’s highly unproductive and not real work.” 3 likes
“Mr Unavailable’s inadvertently complicit partner is you, the Fallback Girl, the woman he habitually defaults to or ‘falls back’ on to have his needs met while selling you short in the process. Accommodating his idiosyncrasies and fickle whims, you’re ripe for a relationship with him because you are unavailable yourself (although you may not know it) and are slipping your own commitment issues in through the back door behind his. You get blinded by chemistry, sex, common interests and the promise of what he could be, if only he changed or you turned into The Perfect Woman. Too understanding and making far too many excuses for him, you have some habits and beliefs that are standing in the way of you having a mutually, fulfilling healthy relationship…with an available man. Pursuing or having relationships with Mr Unavailable is symbolic of your need to learn to love yourself more and to set some boundaries and have better standards.” 2 likes
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