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She Loves You, She Loves You Not...

3.84  ·  Rating details ·  2,303 ratings  ·  167 reviews
Seventeen-year-old Alyssa thought she knew who she was. She had her family and her best friends and, most important, she had Sarah. Sarah, her girlfriend, with whom she dreamed with about the day they could move far away and live out and proud and accepted for themselves, instead of having to hide their relationship.

Alyssa never thought she would have to make that move by
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published June 1st 2011 by Little, Brown Books for Young Readers
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Julie A Peters
Dec 03, 2010 rated it it was amazing
I think I wrote it, so I'd better love it.
Nov 07, 2011 rated it it was ok
What this book does right is create a super strong and steadfast main character in Alyssa. She's a lesbian and she's not going to change herself for anyone, let alone is she going to hide it or be ashamed of it now that it got her kicked out of her father's house. These traits define her and they do so without making her an issue or making her one-dimensional. It spills over into everything she does.

However, it also means she becomes almost a bully toward other people. She's quick to assume sexu
Oct 12, 2012 rated it it was ok
Why do people rate this story so highly? If the protagonist were a heterosexual guy, would we be throwing four and five stars? I'm just saying there's not much to the character beyond lust and a flannel shirt.
Melanie Goodman
Alyssa’s father catches her getting hot and heavy with her girlfriend. This would be embarrassing enough for any teen, but to make matters worse, Alyssa has not come out to her family. Her father doesn’t take the news well, disowning Alyssa, and sending her off to live with her biological mother, Carly, who she hardly knows.

Cut off from her friends, family, and now ex-girlfriend, Alyssa struggles to get a job, meet new people, and put a past full of heartache behind her in a new town. Unfortunat
Jill Guccini
Mar 21, 2012 rated it liked it
I do really like Julie Anne Peters, and I definitely enjoyed this read. I like the characters and plot lines and details she develops, and I like reading their stories. I think it was just hard reading this immediately after A Love Story Starring My Dead Best Friend, which was written so wonderfully. Peters, like some other high-profile queer YA authors I've read, just uses too much cheesy phrasing sometimes and it makes my brain squirm a little. And the protagonist seemed like she was sassy and ...more
Oct 05, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Well, I started this book and finished it all in one night. I could not put it down. It helped that it was basically the story of my own life. Never have I had so many similarities to the main character! (Minus the sexy motorcycle riding lesbian, who I am still anxiously awaiting.) Anyway, this is a great book. The emotion is high and very well done. The characters are likable and realistic. Julie Anne Peters always manages to write these stories that catch your attention and make you feel like ...more
Apr 07, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: lgbt
A great storyline flawed with aggravatingly poor writing structure, irrelevant and semi-pornographic interjections and repetitive scenarios. The number of times the main character physically trips throughout the story is unbearable. Any romantic expression cliché you can think of has been used in this by the author. If you have the patience and tenacity to plunge through the seemingly cobbled-together style, then you'll eventually blot out the poorer parts of the book and come remember the actua ...more
Raye of the Dead
Oct 23, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: own
Just like every other time I've read a book by Julie Anne Peters, I can’t stop talking about it but can’t seem to write a review that does the book justice.

It's good. Read it.
Jul 24, 2011 rated it really liked it
When we were seventeen where were we? Most of us, probably, under the safety of our home with our family. Sent to school by our parents, have great friends, and who knows, maybe have found love at that age as well. Among us is Alyssa, living a safe life with her father until he kicked her out. It's crazy how life turns out, one minute you're inside the comfort zone of what we call home and the next you were just out in the world, all alone; no friends or family to support you, just on your own. ...more
Kelly Hager
May 29, 2011 rated it liked it
After Alyssa's dad learns that she's gay (in about the worst way possible), she's kicked out of the house and sent to live with her mom. The problem is that she barely knows her mom, Carly. (Carly left when she was a baby and they've barely had contact since.) Alyssa's heartbroken. She misses her family (dad, stepmom, younger brother) and she especially misses her girlfriend, Sarah. She's not sure how to move on and create a new life.

It takes a while for the full extent of what happened before A
Is "uneven parallel bars" a thing over there? Here we have either parallel bars or uneven ones... I don't get how something could be both :P

Anyway! This book. I liked it pretty much, but I just couldn't stand Sarah and didn't see the appeal in her - she was immature, clingy, dishonest, self-centred, a cheater, manipulative, you name it... (sound familiar much?!) I don't like people like that in real life so reading about them isn't much fun! God, what a jerk Ben was too. (view spoiler)
Jan 10, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Read this is about the span of 5 hours. I first read "Lies My Girlfriend Told Me" and loved it and I'm glad this is the second book I read by her. I'm a lover of cute stories and this is one of them! Internal monologue took a bit to get used to but definitely needed to progress the story smoothly. I'm excited to read more of Julie Anne Peters!
May 06, 2012 rated it liked it
RATING: 3.5 Out Of 5

The grip of loneliness begins in my stomach and crawls up my chest and lungs and throat. I pick a daisy out of the bowl and hold it up to my nose, closing my eyes, and the bitter odour reminds me of Sarah and home and...everything. I pluck a petal. "She loves you." I drop it in the bowl and pluck another. "She loves you not..."

A volcano erupts inside, and I burst into tears."

I first discovered Peter's when I read her novel By The Time You Read This I'll Be Dead. It was fantas
Feb 11, 2011 rated it it was amazing
She Loves You, She Loves You Not... by Julie Anne Peters follows Alyssa, a girl who has been sent to live with a mother she does not know after being caught in bed with a girl by her father who is a homophobe. Alyssa takes a job in a diner, starts a relationship with a girl and has to get to know a mother whom she has never known and whom works various sketchy jobs including at a strip club. The author also reveals the details of the relationship that Alyssa had that caused her father to disown ...more
Wren [t(he)y]
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Alyssa's father doesn't react well when she comes out to him as a lesbian. She ends up disowned, broken up with her girlfriend, and taken in by Carly, her birth mother, a woman she barely knows at all. Adjusting to her new life proves to be tough, as she must deal with the pain of rejection, the heartbreak from her failed relationship, and her mother's own secret past. Along the way she meets Finn, a new friend in this new
Dec 01, 2012 rated it liked it
The story, plot, and pacing worked well enough. However...[spoilers ahead]

Alyssa's romantic relationships were a bit unbelievable. I understand WHY she behaved the way she did, since she clearly had abandonment issues due to her mom leaving, her dad's remarriage, and her dad not accepting her. So I understand why she'd cling to Sarah and Finn. However, Sarah annoyed the hit out of me, and felt more like a creepily sexualized annoying kid sister type than any sort of heartbreaking ex-girlfriend.
Jennifer Bagazin
Jan 21, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: done, teen-stuff
I went through a variety of emotions when reading this book. One minute I'm repulsed because of all the gayness and the next I'm bawling my eyes out and swimming in my own tears. It was pretty unusual that the theme of the book was about lesbians. Not that I have anything against them. Its just that I still find it hard to accept them in our judgmental society even though their brothers in the gay community are already accepted. And its also the first time that I've read a book in a lesbian's po ...more
Jan 31, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: queer-lit, ya-ness
First of all, I'm always glad to see another book published about lesbians and queer-identified folks, so when I saw that Julie Anne Peters had a new book, I was eager to read. That being said, the book was alright, but it had so many of the same old story lines and themes that I was kind of disappointed.

The book is set up rather strangely, with "flashbacks" about Alyssa and Sara's relationship coming to us in the second person, and it just felt really weird and unreal. And of course, we don't
Jan 24, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: gay-lesbian, lgbtqia
This review is not to help people really decide whether or not to read it, it's just for people who know me...
So, this was the first book I've ever read with a lesbian main character, and I have to say, at first she annoyed me. The main character just seemed really shallow at first, even though you felt bad for her rather horrible situation. All she could think about was Sarah, which makes sense, and what happened must have sucked, so that didn't bother me, but then all she could think about was
Emily Thomas
Oct 30, 2015 rated it it was amazing
The book ‘She Loves You, She Loves You Not...’ is a young adult novel by author Julie Anne Peters. In it was protagonist, Alyssa, and how she has to deal with living in a completely different environment after being disowned by her father after coming out. She has to deal with the change in living with her mother as opposed to her father, and has to live in a small mountain city, where everyone knows everyone and she knows no one. She constantly remembers her old home, more specifically Sarah, h ...more
TJ Fox
Sep 26, 2015 rated it did not like it
I wasn’t a fan of this. I’d have to say that is because this is not my genre of choice (another genre label mistake on the library’s part). This book is a good example of why that is.

The majority of this book is really kind of a giant pity party held by the main character, Alyssa. I get that is kind of part of the deal with this age range, but it is incredibly irritating. I would not have picked this up if I had realized the entire book was going to be about a 17 year old girl. I kept expecting
Jennifer McMurrain
Feb 21, 2011 rated it liked it
I was fortunate enough to receive an advanced copy of this book, which made me extremely excited because I really enjoyed "By the Time You Read This I'll Be Dead."

Though this book was good, I felt it missed the "Wow" factor. Besides the fact that the main character is a lesbian, I found this to be your typical teen love angst book. There were also parts of this book written in the 2nd person. There's a reason this is typically not done, it trips up the brain, anyway it tripped up mine.

Because I
Jade Diamond
Apr 24, 2016 rated it liked it
What this book does right is create a super strong and steadfast main character in Alyssa. She’s a lesbian and she’s not going to change herself for anyone, she not going to hide it or be ashamed of it now that it got her kicked out of her father’s house.

There are a lot of issues at hand here, and not all of them are believable for me. I thought the character relationships were perhaps among the most believable aspects of the story, especially when it came to Alyssa and her father’s relationshi
Kim Burean
Jan 05, 2012 rated it really liked it
Alyssa is disowned by her father after he finds her in bed with her girlfriend, Sarah. She is sent to live with her mother, who abandoned Alyssa as a child, in Colorado.

Alyssa is pretty messed up from getting kicked out by her dad, as well as the break-up of her relationship with Sarah. Her mom is a stripper and Alyssa suspects that she is also a prostitute. She meets several people in her new town and even a new love interest. She learns a lot about herself and those around her.

This book deals
Feb 13, 2015 rated it it was ok
Quite unlikable characters...Alyssa, Carly, Finn, Arlo, Sarah, Ben, Paulie, M'Chelle, Tanith, Geena. On reflection, what Fat Angie and this book have in common is that the worst thing in the world (in their imaginations) has already happened before the book starts, we only find out what that is in flashbacks, and these books show what happens next to imperfect, messy, sometimes quite unlikable and fairly inarticulate girls whose world collapses. The world does not in fact end, and here's where, ...more
Jun 10, 2011 rated it really liked it
I cannot imagine living in a family who I knew wouldn't approve of me if they knew the truth about me. Alyssa has had to live that way for the last 4 years of her life after she came out to her friends at age 13. She knew she had to keep the truth from her father as he was an open homophobe. She Loves You, She Loves You Not tells two stories: one of Alyssa's first real relationship followed by her father finding out she was a lesbian and disowning her. Two of her starting over in a new town wher ...more
May 22, 2012 rated it it was ok
I guess 2 1/2 stars, but this book was just not that interesting. Very predictable and I rolled my eyes one too many times. It has actually been a couple of weeks since I finished it, and I can't even quite remember why I found it so dull, I'm not even sure of the names of the characters. Bad sign.
Feb 18, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: fiction, young-adult
Review coming soon
Jun 29, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: response
She loves you, she loves you not is a story about a troubled teenager named Alyssa who is forced to moved out after her dad finds out about her sexuality. She is forced to move in with her mother who she barely knows, Carly, in a new town she has a chance to start over. During her time in this new town Alyssa is forced to re-evaluate her relationship with and over come her attachment to her ex girlfriend Sarah.

The author of this book uses an excellent technique of using Alyssa remembering and dw
Laina SpareTime
Jan 27, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: own
Cross-posted from my blog where there's more information on where I got my copy and everything, and live links.

(3.5 but not a strong enough one to round up to 4.)

I've talked a bit before about how I enjoy the kind of "life after the big deal thing happens" books, and this is one of them. I like seeing people deal with consequences and life changes more, sometimes, than I like reading about the drama and the falling apart bits. That's a thing I enjoy. (Obviously, did you see how many blog posts I
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Julie Anne Peters was born in Jamestown, New York. When she was five, her family moved to the Denver suburbs in Colorado. Her parents divorced when she was in high school. She has three siblings: a brother, John, and two younger sisters, Jeanne and Susan.

Her books for young adults include Define "Normal" (2000), Keeping You a Secret (2003), Luna (2004), Far from Xanadu (2005), Between Mom and Jo (
“Arlo: Show her the ropes.
Finn: Where do we keep the ropes again?”
“You know what I do to forget the past? I drink my own special concoction. I call it Milk of Amnesia.” 4 likes
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