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Why Kids Lie: How Parents Can Encourage Truthfulness

3.61  ·  Rating details ·  158 ratings  ·  18 reviews
In this helpful book, Dr. Paul Ekman, a world-renowned expert on lying, shows parents how to deal effectively with the variety of lies children of all ages tell--from little white lies to boasting and bragging to the outright concealing of information.

"My son Billy lied to me and he's only five. Is that normal?"

"I know Joanne is lying when she tells me she doesn't smoke po
Paperback, 224 pages
Published February 1st 1991 by Penguin Books (first published 1989)
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Nov 24, 2014 rated it really liked it
Paul Ekman is one of the giants in my field, communications and body language. His particular expertise is lying, which he has made his life's study. He's consulting with the FBI, the CIA, and the TSA. He discovered micro-expressions, those little bursts of underlying emotion that leak out (too fast for most people to see) when we're trying to conceal how we really feel. And now he's written a book (together with his wife and son) on parents, kids, and lying. It's not his best book. It reviews t ...more
Apr 21, 2012 rated it it was ok
Two things I hate right now: how-to books and the rating system on Goodreads (especially the label of each level). Actually, I have always hated these two things so I don't know why I'm mentioning them anymore.
The reasons why I read this book were in no way related to any reccommendations I might have received. I like the topic, I've heard a lot about Ekman, I've heard about the book a couple of times AND! I missed the how-to part in the title. The book was somewhat interesting at the beginning
Fila Trece (Liantener)
Me llamó la atención por el título, pero más que nada por el autor, quien inspiró la serie "Lie to me". Para empezar la traducción del título está mal, pues el título original es "¿Porqué mienten los niños?", y este sí hace más sentido con el contenido. Se trata de un análisis de las razones que llevan a lo niños a mentir, de manera que podamos prevenirlas o afrontarlas. Por momentos la lectura es cansada, porque el autor tiende a ser repetitivo, pero la información es muy buena. Un capítulo lo ...more

This took me a long time to finish because to be honest it's a little bit boring. There are however some interesting points that I don't think I'd ever really considered before and I would recommend this to any parent wether or not they're having trouble with their children.
I especially liked the part written by Mary Ann Mason Ekman and I think I might have learned something from reading this :)
Ashraf Hefny
Sep 27, 2016 rated it it was ok
شعرت ان الكتاب ممل
او ربما لانى كنت مضطر الى انهائه فى وقت قصير
يتحدث Paul Ekmanعن السبب فى لجوء بعض الاطفال الى الكذب
وانه يجب ان لا ننظر الى الموضوع فقط على انه مشكلة اخلاقية
وهذا افضل جزء فى الكتاب
جزء كلامه عن ابنه وزوجته كان جدا جدا ممل
Camille Huber
Dec 20, 2007 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: Partents or people who deal with liars
Ok, ok, I know that this looks like a parenting book. But I swear that this guy is totally brilliant. he has done studies on exactly what facial expressions people make when they are lying. It's fascinating stuff. He's presents all sorts of incredible information. Sometimes he takes a little while to get to the point, but the information is totally fascinating.
Sep 27, 2011 rated it really liked it
Much of this book deals with research and presents it in relatable stories. I liked the chapter written by the author's teenaged son. My key take-away - kids lie because they're either embarrassed or don't want to get into trouble.
Dec 08, 2009 rated it it was ok
There are quite a few jewels (mostly toward the beginning), but the poor structure and the including of three different authors destroy both consistency and conciseness.
Sep 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Я наполегливо раджу цей твір Пола Екмана, тим, хто має справу з дітьми. Водночас в жодному разі, ніколи, навіть безкоштовно не торкайтеся цього видання (але про переклад пізніше).
Що я виніс для себе найбільш релевантного. Діти брешуть там де, батьки не гребують брехнею у повсякденному житті (пригадав фільм з Джимом Керрі «LiarLiar», там де головний герой припинив брехати навіть у відповідь на питання, як тобі моя сукня і це було для нього катастрофою – ми насправді не усвідомлюємо як часто ми бр
Cristina Levitchi
O cartea care a elucidat multe intrebari ale mele. Sugerez sa fie citita de parinti caci acesta cartea va fi temelia intelegerii a lumii imaginare a copilului si a cea reala. Veți gasi metode de "manipulare" folosite de catre copii si de asemeni cheite de a intelege cum de citit printre rinduri emotiile copiilor.
Usor de citit, bune exemple. Ultimul capitol, pentru mine, a fost mai greu de citit. In rest lectura placuta.
Alexey Alexeyenko
По моему скромному мнению тема, обозначенная в названии книги, не раскрыта. Очень много лишних слов об очевидных истинах, ссылка на неглубокие исследования и заявления, что надо бы изучать вопрос больше. Вся суть книги изложена в эпилоге. Немного жаль время, потраченное на чтение. Хорошо, что читается легко, что как бы говорит-книга не научная работа, а лёгкое развлекательное чтение.
Zhou Xiaozhu
Nov 20, 2018 rated it really liked it
I started to read topics regarding kids’ lies after my elder son lied by boasting of something he did not do in kindergarten. This book provides more information and urges me to think about the motives why kids lies and more important how to deal with them. This is a very useful book and I am eager to read more.
Mar 09, 2016 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: educație-copii
Am aflat de ce mint copiii, câteva motive sunt expuse chiar la început de carte:

* pentru a evita pedeapsa
* pentru a obține ceva ce altfel nu poate fi obținut
* pentru a proteja prietenii de probleme
* pentru a proteja propria persoană sau pe altcineva de rău
* pentru a câștiga admirația sau interesul cuiva
* pentru a evita stânjeneala
* pentru a menține intimitatea
* pentru a demonstra propria putere asupra unei autorități

Acestea nu sunt toate motivele, dar cel puțin sunt majoritatea pentru care c
Dec 25, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: español, psicologia
Muy bien escrito, utilizando bases científicas muy bien explicadas e que considera los límites que estas investigaciones tienen. Me encantaría ver el libro actualizado con los descubrimientos de los últimos 20 años sobre la mentira infantil... Será que ya fueron respondidas algunas de las preguntas que quedaron sin respuesta en este libro?
Bridgett Gonzalez
Apr 09, 2014 rated it liked it
A clear and honest discussion why kids lie or rather, why we as people lie. With that being said, its hard to think that we can prevent lying in anyone for any and in all situations. We have to honest and understand "lying". Not judge it.
Jan 13, 2009 rated it liked it
very insightful reference material... may not end up finishing though

too much content to handle at that time... didn't finish.
Nov 07, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
Amazing. Very well written, easy to read and very educational.
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American psychologist that pioneered the study of emotions' relationship to facial expressions.

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