When Your Sex Drives Don't Match: Discover Your Libido Types to Create a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life

by Sandra Pertot

Do your partner's sexual needs, expectations, or desires vary widely from your own? While the differences between the two of you can be confusing and stressful, a break-up doesn't have to be imminent. Now, for the first time, When Your Sex Drives Don't Match introduces the ten libido types — from the emotionally intimate Sensual type to the physically passionate Erotic libido. Longtime sex therapist Dr. Sandra Pertot presents her groundbreaking, highly practical discoveries and insights about: How your libido types affect both you and your partner Quizzes and exercises to help pinpoint the basis of your concerns, and how to remedy them Rational ways for couples to understand, manage, and overcome sexual incompatibilities Understanding and overcoming the Cycle of Misunderstanding that causes so much conflict Tips on building and maintaining your intimate relationship. With clear, straightforward diagnostic tools and remedies, When Your Sex Drives Don't Match will help you and your partner identify, understand, and work through your problems for a mutually satisfying sex life.

Genres: Sexuality, Relationships, Nonfiction

272 pages, Paperback

First published February 25, 2007

Reviews

[Gemma Cribb]

Finally! A practical no nonsense book that tells it as it is, and breaks through the shame and disconnection that occurs when one partner wants more or less sex then the other. If you have a different libido to your partner (which will be most of you just from a biological stand point if you are heterosexual) then read this book to help you break through Hollywood sex-hype and understand the reality of human sexual intimacy.

[Erin]

Too clinical and way too long for me. The author has a lot of sex experience, but I thought she spent too much time identifying and discussing things that seemed more to fill pages than address the basic issue.

[PuraVida]

Revealing and useful

Amazing discoveries for both my wife and I reading this book. Meaningful changes afoot to the positive in our relationship as a result of thoughtful personal and by doing the exercises that the books outlines together with my wife. This book quite literally has provided us the opportunity to get beyond some major issues (that heretofore were unrecognized) and provide the real opportunity to save our marriage. This book and the other title “Taking Space” (different author) I would credit as important tools to saving our 24-year marriage.

[Robin]

Even if your drives aren’t that different, this book has great insight to the vast array of “normal”. It helps you really appreciate your significant other’s perspective, no matter how similar or mismatched.

[Péter Dániel]

Its a good book about libido and libido differences. The tests ar crucial. Helped me a lot understand my partner. The author is writing about the theme sutch humility...

[Jillian]

This was very helpful for us. Sparked a good conversation.