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The Ex-Boyfriend's Handbook

(Ed & Dan #1)

3.59  ·  Rating details ·  1,674 ratings  ·  218 reviews
"It's not me - it's you. You've let yourself go, so I'm letting you go too."

When Edward Middleton hears those words from Jane, his girlfriend of the past ten years, he knows he's in serious trouble. Determined to get her back, Edward must learn how to make women fancy him again. But what makes for a good boyfriend nowadays? Right now, he's the kind of man who puts the 'ex'

Paperback, 368 pages
Published November 1st 2010 by Sourcebooks Landmark (first published 2006)
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Jun 09, 2011 rated it really liked it

"Edward. Let me get this straight. You've called me right in the middle of Antiques Roadshow just to tell me your girlfriend's gone to bed?"

Tibet, Dan. Jane's gone to Tibet. She's left me."

Poor Edward! Never in his wildest dreams would he have imagined his girlfriend of ten years leaving him (and taking almost all the furniture!). He's despondent, and in a little bit of denial, so he calls his best friend Dan. Dan is a local television personality and he has had many girlfriends. Actually
Nov 29, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: chick-lit
2 words that describe the book―Male chick-lit

3 settings or characters I met

* Brighton, England, Present Day

* Edward Middleton comes home one day to find his apartment empty. No, he hasn’t been robbed; his girlfriend of 10 years, Jane, has left him. In her note, she says “It’s not me—it’s you.” It seems that Edward’s increasing weight, sloppiness and lack of ambition has made Jane rethink things. So she’s off to Tibet and will be back in three months. Edward decides he has three months to make hi
Jennifer Bourque
Jun 02, 2020 rated it liked it
3.5 stars

When I first started reading this book it immediately captured my attention. As I continued to read along, I started to feel rather angry; and I considered adding it to my DNF pile. I decided to take a quick look over some of the other star reviews and I saw the majority were three stars; so I decided to keep reading. I am very glad I did, indeed, finish this book as it discusses some rather important relationship issues and the importance of loving ourselves for who we are as a person.
Feb 24, 2011 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2011-reads
The book begins with our hero, Edward, receiving one of the (if not the) worst Dear John letters imaginable. What's worse is that Edward soon realizes that every nasty thing enumerated in the letter is true. In her letter, Jane essentially has given Edward three months to fix himself, which will at least open the door for a discussion of their future.

So, with the guidance and help of his best friend/ladies' man/cad, the lady bartender from their pub, his lecherous/man-chasing boss, and his new
Helena Wildsmith
Oct 13, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed this! Just a perfect quick, funny read with extremely loveable characters. I've just seen it's the first in a trilogy so I'll definitely be looking out for the other two. ...more
Brianna (The Book Vixen)
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3½ stars

Why I Read this Book: I’ve seen The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook described as the male-equivalent to Bridget Jones’s Diary. I thought BJD was hilarious so I wanted to read The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook. I was even more curious to read a Chick-Lit book written from the main male character’s POV, figuring it would be quite a change from the norm. It was.

What I Liked: The book begins on January 16th, the day Edward discovers that Jane, his girlfriend of 10 years, h
Nov 22, 2010 rated it really liked it
Edward Middleton comes home to find his girlfriend, Jane has left him. Jane and Edward have been a couple for ten years. As if things couldn’t be worse, Jane not only left Edward but left the country. Jane went to Tibet. Though she did leave Edward a note. She told him that “You’ve let yourself go, So I’m letting you go. She left it on his scale and told him to use it for more than just stacking newspapers.

Edward has three months before Jane returns. Edward’s good friend, Dan tells Edward that
Wendy Hines
Jun 01, 2013 rated it liked it
Most chick-lit type of books are written by women. So it was a wonderful surprise to see that The Ex-Boyfriend's Handbook was written by a man with a man's point of view.

Edward Middleton has had the same job since college, and is happy with his relationship with Jane. They met in college and have lived together for ten years. So it's a shock that HE is shocked when Jane leaves him a Dear John letter, leaving him, but stating it really is HIM and not her.

Edward doesn't understand why she would
Chandler Baker
Mar 31, 2011 rated it liked it
It’s been a long time since I’d read any chick lit. In fact, I think several of my friends had recently vowed to swear off it–only I kept a copy of Bergdorf Blondes as my guilty pleasure. Anyway, when I received a copy of The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook in the mail, I decided to break my vow (So soon?) and check it out. Except this was different. This was boy chick lit, if there is such a thing. At least it was written by a boy.

The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook follows the story of Edward Middleton, a dow
Rhoda Baxter
These books are good fun. I read this and the sequel one after the other and enjoyed them both (I found them whilst browsing the 'just returned' shelf in my local library). They are contemporary romantic comedies with fun characters and really great dialogue. Ed and Sam are lovely characters. The secondary characters are even funnier.

You can call them 'Lad Lit' if you like - although I don't see why people are surprised that men can write romance. We all fall in love. And why do people always a
Jan 09, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: first-reads
Charming boy version of chick-lit. You'll root for Edward throughout, and probably spend a good portion of your time laughing aloud. There are parts which wrap up a little conveniently, as well as parts that are just as messy in real life, and I'd highly recommend this book as a look into the psyche of certain kinds of modern men. Quite lovely.

In fact, my only question is: what happened to Billy exactly?

I received this book gratis as part of GoodReads' First Reads program.
Apr 29, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this book a few years ago and LOVED it. Re-reading it now, I still think it is excellent!

This is laugh out loud funny, but very British so I am not sure the references or sense of humour could be appreciated by a reader who is not familiar with the British culture.

This is basically chick-lit from a man’s perspective, told by a man.

I also think it is like a self-help book and picked it up again at this time of year precisely for this reason.
May 16, 2014 rated it liked it
A quick, fun read, but not hugely memorable. I was hoping it would be funnier, but as it was, the humor remained relatively predictable and flat. Still, a good book to read when you just want to unwind, and are not looking for something terribly stimulating, but still entertaining.

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Jun 01, 2013 rated it really liked it
Hilarious. Literally laugh out loud funny!
Sep 02, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: on-kindle
cute, quick read....first "chick lit" by a man...i enjoyed it! ...more
Melissa D'andrea
Dec 19, 2014 rated it liked it
It was really funny book! Many times I laughed out loud and giggled. Matt Dunn made all the characters so interesting I wanted to know more about them.
Andy Sowers
Feb 02, 2020 rated it really liked it

An amazing testimony on a spell caster who brought my wife back to me..
My name is Andy Sowers,i live in Australia,and I'm happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids.A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce.she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,an
Oct 01, 2017 rated it liked it
3-1/2 stars actually; somewhat predictable but fun. Central character quite likable; happy to see him win. After long time girlfriend clears out for extended vacation leaving a note blaming him, Edward goes through intense self examination with his self-admiring girl magnet friend. They develop plan for improvement; we experience Edwards redemption with his good humor and behavior
This was an okay read. It kept me interested enough to find out what happened at the end but I did spend a lot of time conscious of how much I had left to read. I mean, it was alright, but there was a lot of things said that were based entirely on stereotypes and a lot of the characters were quite two-dimensional.
First time reading this author. It was a lightweight fun read - male chick-lit!! Lol. The author provides a readable narrative that is easy to digest and takes one away from regular life. A nice piece of escapism but without the depth that would make me want to read it again.
rachel driver
Jan 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Absolutely loved this book.So different to have a male side of the story told.Can relate to the "letting yourself go" whilst in a long term relationship, and sorting yourself out .
Found the book great fun and easy to read.
Tracey Priest
Jun 29, 2017 rated it really liked it
This is an ok book. It's not gripping but an easy read. It's about a guy who's dumped by his girlfriend and goes about getting fit to win her back. ...more
Jul 16, 2018 rated it liked it
Sometimes you want a break from the Sci-fi and the fantasy so you get yourself a nice easy summer read. Pretty good read.
Nov 04, 2018 rated it liked it
3,5 stars
Apr 10, 2019 rated it liked it
Chick lit from a man's perspective. Cute story. ...more
Kerry Henderson
Apr 15, 2019 rated it liked it
A fun read about a man who gets dumped then goes on a journey to learn about himself women and dating in general .

A lighthearted story with some funny moments.
Helen Wright
Apr 21, 2019 rated it really liked it
I loved this book. Made me laugh out loud.
Allison Hildreth
Jun 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Easy and fun beach read about romantic relationships
Jul 14, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: own
In the same thread as Sophie Kinsella books except the main character is down to earth and trying to find himself through the advice of his wacky friends. Exactly what I was expecting and wanted.
Mar 22, 2020 rated it it was ok
Cute, funny at times, but cliche city. 2.5 stars.
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Matt was born in Margate, but eventually escaped to Spain to write his first novel (in between working as a newspaper columnist, and playing a lot of tennis). Previously he has been a professional lifeguard, fitness equipment salesman, and an IT head hunter, but he prefers writing for a living, so hopes people will keep buying his books.

Matt is the author of four contemporary romantic comedy novel

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