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Marriage And Morals

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The fireworks fly when the great Bertrand Russell writes about a subject as provocative as marriage and morals. But they are a rational and devastatingly logical kind of fireworks . . . for that was the nature of the man. Russell's approach to sex and love is based on the realities of need and desire, rather than on ancient tribal and religious taboos. Marriage and Morals ...more
Paperback, 320 pages
Published January 6th 1981 by Liveright (first published January 1st 1929)
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peiman-mir5 rezakhani
دوستانِ گرانقدر، این کتاب از 178 صفحه و 21 فصل تشکیل شده است... این ریویو را پیش از این برای عنوان <زناشویی و اخلاق> نیز نوشته بودم، که اینجا و برای عنوان <زناشوئی و اخلاق> نیز تکرار میکنم
به برخی از مطالبِ این کتاب در زیر اشاره میکنم و سپس در موردِ «زناشویی» و «رفتار با جنس زن» چند خطی مینویسم. چون این موضوع، بسیار مهم میباشد و دارایِ اهمیت است... سپاسگزارم که این متن را میخوانید... درود بر «برتراند راسل» و یادش در ذهن و وجودِ ما گرامی باد
دوستانِ عزیز، مهمترین مسائلی که «راسل» در این
peiman-mir5 rezakhani
دوستانِ گرانقدر، این کتاب از 178 صفحه و 21 فصل تشکیل شده است... به برخی از مطالبِ این کتاب در زیر اشاره میکنم و سپس در موردِ « زناشویی» و « رفتار با جنس زن» چند خطی مینویسم. چون این موضوع، بسیار مهم میباشد و دارایِ اهمیت است... سپاسگزارم که این متن را میخوانید... درود بر « برتراند راسل» و یادش گرامی باد
دوستانِ عزیز، مهمترین مسائلی که « راسل» در این کتاب به آنها پرداخته، عبارتند از: زناشویی... فحشاء... عشق در روابطِ زناشویی...خانواده و دولت... آزادی زنان... خانواده هایِ امروزی... ارزش های انسانی
Sep 24, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2012
As i started reading this 1929 masterpiece from the great Bertrand Russell, this line just kept repeating itself in my brain in a loop!
Ever since i was a teenager, i hv often wondered how come guilt and pleasure are strongly associated in our society – almost everything that gives you pleasure, is a taboo! Leave alone Sexual thoughts (and thoughts were all we can have), even mundane things like talking to friends (wasting time), eating non-veg/chocolates/etc, drinking or even s
Feb 11, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
امتیاز اصلی من : 4.5
از خوندن این کتاب تحلیلی بی نهایت لذت بردم. نگاهِ راسل نگاهی است علمی ، خالی از هرگونه تعصب ، خالی از هرگونه مذهب و با عبارات. برتراند راسل خیلی سال پیش این رو نوشته اما ، میبینم ملت و جامعه ما هنوز درگیر عقاید خرافی و مذهبی هستند ، اما همونطور که خود راسل در این کتاب نوشته بود :
اگر علم قدمت و حرمتی پیدا کند شک نیست مانند مذهب زندگی ما را در پنجه خواهد گرفت. من پیش بینی می کنم روزی فرا رسد که کسانی که پروای آزادی انسان را دارند ناگزیر علیه استبدادعلم قیام کنند. با این همه اگ
Feb 09, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
خیلی خوب بود
فقط میتونم بگم یک کتاب راهنمای کامل بود. واقعن کامل و جامع در زمینۀ زناشویی
Jul 09, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: feminism, essay
I knew Bertrand Russell first through his autobiography and then some of his essays and Religion and science. This book I think had probably a revolutionary effect in its own time when there were still so many cumbersome laws for marriage, divorce and sexual affairs in Europe and USA. Laws which were fundamentally based on religious superstitions where it was so difficult to change the law unless as Russell says himself those who are now old or middle-aged have died.

The book starts with a histo
Apr 27, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
کتابی بسیار کامل و جامع در مورد اخلاقیات جنسی ای که توی جوامع مدرن و امروزی لازمه رعایت کنیم.
یادمه زمانی خوندمش که مدتی بود دیگه مذهبی نبودم اما باز هم خیلی حرفاش به نظرم تابو می اومد . فهمیدم اون موقع که حتی اگر مذهبی و سنتي هم نباشیم چه قدر گاهی نفس کشیدن در فضای سنتی میتونه روی افکار و عقاید ما تاثیر بذاره و چه قدر باید مطالعه کنیم و بدونيم تا خودمون رو از چنگشون رها کنیم.
Zahra Dashti
راسل توانایی خوبی در قضاوت بیطرفانه و منطقی داره. یک سری گزاره داره که در جهان اون (به زعم خودش) صادقه و بر مبنای اون گزاره های صادق ، با قوانین منطق نتیجه گیری می کنه. کاری که از یک منطقدان که بهش عمده زندگی اش رو صرف منطق و اصول بندی اون کرده بر می آید.
با این همه این کتاب نتایج اشتباه قابل توجهی داره (و صد البته نتایج درست بسیار زیادی) و دلیلش نه نتیجه گیری اشتباه ، که گزاره های ناصادق هست.
البته این اشتباه عجیبی نیست ، چون راسل این کتاب رو سالها پیش ، بر مبنای نظریات روانشناسی و .... نوشته که
Erika RS
Marriage and Morals was terrible, but great fun! My margins are filled with disagreeing and occasionally snarky comments. Russell discusses his opinions on the then current state of marriage and on its future.

You may guess that I disliked the book because of the conclusions Russell draws. However, his conclusions were the smaller factor in my dislike. The larger factor is that Russell conveys the attitude that his arguments are so rational as to be indisputable. He never examines the validity o
Jan 06, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Thinkers
Bertrand Russell rocks. The man was one of the last Renaissance men, and this book, written in the late 1920's, addresses the same set of issues that present themselves to society today, many still unresolved.

I'm not sure that I agree with everything that Russell says in all his writings, but as an observer, critic, analyzer, he has few equals and the lucid manner of his writing makes the reader feel smart.

Marriage and Morals addresses marriage as an institution as well as a relationship, and
Farha Crystal
Mar 27, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
"Marriage is for women the commonest mode of livelihood, and the total amount of undesired sex endured by women is probably greater in marriage than in prostitution.” - Prostitution

He nailed it and the fascinating part was he wrote this book in 1929.
P.J. Sullivan
Said Russell, "There is no country in the world ... where sexual ethics and sexual institutions have been determined by rational considerations." In this book he suggests that the system in vogue in Western civilization be amended by the application of rationality to sexual practices. This got him into a whole lot of trouble! And what did he mean by rational applications? That is what this book is about. His views were often controversial, but he argued them with formidable logic.

On page 96 Rus
Nov 08, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Russell explains the main reasons of why the societies denigrate sex and gives some useful clues to educate children about sex and to prevent the making sex the fixed idea for them. We can say that some of the ideas of the author is not valid for today's society but his point of view for contemporary morals is admirable: "Its not about an individual's getting hold of oneself about sex (because animalistic sexual desires can be transformed into useful actions, especially via education) but gettin ...more
Shima Masoumi
Feb 06, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
راسل در اين كتاب نگاهي متفاوت به ارتباطات جنسي، عشق، خانواده و زناشويي مي اندازد و با بررسي تاريخي بنيان خانواده و تاريخچه ي به وجود آمدن اخلاق جنسي نظريه اي جديد و متفاوت در مورد زناشويي ابراز مي كند. به شخصه بسيار از خواندن اين كتاب لذت بردم. لذتي كمي و بيش خودخواهانه كه من هم چقدر با راسل موافقم و كمي متاسف شدم كه چرا چيزي كه راسل سال ها پيش درك كرده بود هنوز تا اين حد ناشناخته مانده!
Feb 11, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am now convinced that Bertrand Russell can write about anything. This book is about more than the title suggests - it's a look at the past and future of sexual ethics and patriarchal society in general, as well as marriage in particular. Although some of the theories he cites are outdated (e.g. Freudian psychology), it is amazing how accurate some of his predictions turned out to be.
Jul 16, 2015 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
گویا کتاب در زمان انتشارش در سال 1929 به خاطر جسارتش بحث برانگیز بوده ولی میشود دید که با گذر زمان بسیاری از اصلاحاتی که راسل برای اخلاق زناشویی در این کتاب ارائه میدهد به تحقق پیوسته (در غرب لااقل) مانند تسهیل در طلاق، نگاه به ارتباط جنسی به عنوان امری طبیعی و نیازی مثبت و آوردنش به سطح آگاه جامعه، رابطه پیش از ازدواج، و بحث برانگیزتر از همه، امکان بر عهده گرفتن مسئولیت پدری و مادری در قبال فرزند هرچند والدین، شریک جنسی و عاطفی دیگری داشته باشند درحالت غیر ایدهآل البته

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Nov 27, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Η σεμνοτυφία των μεγάλων είναι το αποτέλεσμα της αισχρότητας των μικρών.
Ό,τι διδαχτήκαμε με σύμπλεγμα,μυστήριο και κρυφά νοήματα συνδέθηκε με κάτι το απαράδεκτο,περίεργο,πονηρό.
Λάθος διαπαιδαγώγηση,πολλά ταμπού,γάμος και ευτυχία σα να μην πέρασε μία μέρα:γεμάτοι μεσαιωνικές προκαταλήψεις-προλήψεις και φρενοβλαβιώσεις-ξεπνευματοποίηση και σήψη.
I can't claim to agree with all he says, but the process of re-thinking what is taken for granted is of paramount importance! This is an impressive example by one of the greatest thinkers of recent history.
Lewis Manalo
May 31, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Essential to the human.
Jul 24, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: philosophy
I have been looking for /Marriage and Morals/ for years. Bertrand Russell is one of my favorite writers and philosophers. The book is legendary as an Ur-text for the polyamory movement. Several witty quotes have come from it. When I found a used American first edition in a second-hand bookstore in Ithaca, I was overjoyed.

After reading it, I was disappointed, but I should not have been surprised. It was not Russell's best and he knew it. He himself considered it a non-academic work intended for
Jul 18, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Bertrand Russell is well known for being a provocative and controversial writer. While I'm sure this has caused him many "falls from grace" throughout his long life, his writings on marriage and the morals in particular did so in a more concrete way, like costing him a position at the City College of New York.
Reading Marriage and Morals, it can be understood why this happened, as his views are quite progressive for someone writing in 1929.

There are several interesting points brought up in this b
Jesse Bacon
May 11, 2009 rated it really liked it
Wow, Bertrand Russel is a riot! This has a wonderful satirical bite, and works as an open inquiry. Despite his stated rationalist bias, he really is an enthusiastic proponent of love free from at least some assumptions about it. It is of course jarring when he reveals himself to have other assumptions or some sympathy for eugenics (only racial in the case of Blacks and Native Americans, the rest intellectual eugenics!) But really a little sad but impressive how much of his comments have either c ...more
Michael Christopher
Jul 26, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Russell's predictions were a little off, because some trends weren't readily apparent at the time he was writing... but his analysis of some of the problems that were plaguing Western society at the time was as precise as an autopsy, and his work remains relevant as many of those problems are still plaguing us today. It's a shame that his work isn't required reading in more schools.
Feb 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Every time I read one of Russell's books I am assaulted by a strong feeling of regret that I didn't come across them sooner. Better late than never, as they say. This book is a sparkling companion to "The Conquest of Happiness".
Prithvi Shams
May 29, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Brilliant book, hard to believe this was written in 1929. This book is the perfect medicament for the disease that is the intensely repressed sexual tension rampant in the societies in the Indian sub-continent and the whole of the Muslim world.
Apr 25, 2007 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People not yet jaded with Russell
If a person tells me he has been to the worst places I have no reason to judge him; but if he tells me it was his superior wisdom that enabled him to go there, then I know he is a fraud.
Ludwig Wittgenstein
seryal olcay
Mar 29, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Bayıldım. BR 'ın okuduğum ilk kitabı, tüm diğer kitaplarını da okumak istiyorum. 2016 Türkiyesi hatta modern dünyası için bile çok ileri görüşlü bir kitap, bu 1930 yılında yazıldığını ancak 1-2 örnekte anlıyorsunuz. Evliliğe, çocukların cinsel eğitimine, yasakların /günahların nasıl da mutsuz, cahil, korku içinde ve zalim insanlar yarattığını daha iyi anlıyorsunuz. Türk erkeği/Türk kadını tipik modellerin bu soz konusu baskı nedeniyle oluştuğu açık. Açık, kıskançlık olmayan, tamamen sevgi ve aşk ...more
Mike Walker
Aug 17, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is not easy reading, especially for those unused to Russell's style. It requires a fair amount of background in English history and literature, particularly the Bible. If you have a great deal of interest and a Google connection, though, all of the allusions and background can be discovered easily. He gives an interesting, though very Russell-esque background to European ideas of the relations between men and women, the institution of marriage, and the responsibilities of parents. Some of i ...more
Sep 07, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book started out great. I found myself agreeing vigorously with ol' Bertie like I always do. Unfortunately, the late chapter on eugenics really detracts from the value of this book, and I found it quite shocking that someone whose writings and ideas I have admired so much could write that chapter. However, I still think this book is worth reading. Russell was way ahead of his time, and he makes many good arguments about the history and future of sex, open relationships, marriage, families, ...more
Aug 18, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Although the language and treatment of certain subjects is pretty dated, BR applies his clear and concise analysis in this book to what role society should play in our sex lives. His progressive ideas about feminism and patriarchy were ahead of his time - and it's almost painful to read how optimistic he was about the ability of the feminist movement to radically change the lives of working women.
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“Love can flourish only as long as it is free and spontaneous; it tends to be killed by the thought of duty. To say that it is your duty to love so-and-so is the surest way to cause you to hate him of her.” 76 likes
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