Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex

by Nina Hartley

Legendary porn star Nina Hartley's guide to thrilling, liberating, mind-blowing, soul-fulfilling, and intimacy-building sex!

Witty, smart, and frankly provocative, Nina Hartley knows sex. As a sex performer, sexual adventurer, and sex educator, she's done the fieldwork and has taken extensive notes. Now, she's ready to share her research. Let's just say that she's had all the sex-the good, the bad, and the indifferent-so you won't necessarily have to!

Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex is for sexual pioneers and enthusiastic novices. Unabashedly erotic, the book covers a lot of territory, allowing readers to sample the whole smorgasbord or just nibble at what they see as the choicest bits. To start things off, Nina includes explicitly detailed chapters on foreplay, oral sex, masturbation, toys, and games. Sexual adventurers (and voyeurs) will find chapters on swinging, three-ways, anal sex, erotic domination, sensual submission, and much more.

Nina is a strong advocate of safe sex, physically and emotionally, and she helps readers establish personal ground rules. But as a sexual liberationist and a feminist, her core belief is that, between consenting adults, all sexual behaviors are a matter of personal choice. Whether you're trying to reignite the passion with a longtime spouse, or explore new terrain with a new lover, Nina offers a variety of ideas to achieve exhilarating, deeply satisfying, intimate, and profoundly liberating sex.

Genres: Sexuality, Nonfiction, Relationships, Self Help, Medical, Romance, Erotica

368 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2006

About the author

American pornographic actress, pornographic film director, sex educator, feminist, and author.

Hartley was born into an jewish family. her parents later converted to budhism.

Hartley considers herself to be sex-positive, atheist and liberal.

Reviews

[Susanne · Rating 5 out of 5]

What an eye-opener -- the author is a professional sex worker and nurse who is well educated, articulate, and an enthusiastic feminist to boot. Her message, that sexual pleasures of all sorts between consenting adults are gifts to be respected, is a good one. I like the primary emphasis that people should TALK to their partners and be respectful of each other. A book like this could be a boon to almost any relationship.

[Eric · Rating 5 out of 5]

My wife is very pleased with me now that I've read this book. It makes things grow and makes baby ovens hot

[Katie Bailey · Rating 3 out of 5]

clear and fun to read. the chapters on role playing and masturbation are equally chatty and warm. i felt like with Nina's guidance, i too could be a dungeon mistress of my own domain.

[Shannon · Rating 5 out of 5]

I met her! She is such an intelligent, articulate woman. Very appealing energy.

[Bon Tom · Rating 5 out of 5]

I though I knew what I could expect from this, and I got that. But I also got so much more. This book is so great in its scope and practical application that it just boggles my mind. Just incredible. In short I would recommend it to everyone, male or female, and also to laymen and women as well as medical professionals, therapists and so on. Because, apart from covering seemingly every physical aspect of the "field", the book is as much, if not more, about psychological side of the vanilla sex as well as various sorts of kinks. I can't think of anything that isn't covered. And also, if you're a man, you'll feel like a fly on the wall in the "enemy" HQ. Goes the opposite way to some extent, probably, but the book is written by a woman, after all. (And not any woman :)

[Zuzka Jakúbková · Rating 5 out of 5]

Nina Hartley wrote a political sex manifesto with the added benefit of providing some really hands on tips and tricks about various aspects of sex life.

While the advice on sexual acts from a sex educator with 30 years of career under her belt is invaluable, the true added value of the text derives from the tone and approach in which author thinks about sex.

If you are starting a sex-ed library, I recommend you to begin with this one. More than 20 chapters begin with the essential stuff and continue on to the more untraditional things. It is great for broadening your horizons and leaving you feeling confident about your sexuality and sexual experience.

[Marie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm biased as I adore her. Great book for a wedding gift.

[Kara · Rating 4 out of 5]

There is a lot to learn from this book about sexual communication, the largest erogenous zone in the body is the mind.

[Christian Orr · Rating 5 out of 5]

Educating, Nina is!

(See what I did there, with the wordplay on one of Nina’s classic film titles? Anywho...)

Detailed sex advice from the living legend Nina Hartley, a true iconic goddess of the adult entertainment industry. Need I say more?

[Rebecca · Rating 4 out of 5]

Totally engrossing. The only parts that aren't utterly fantastic are when she goes off into tangents on her own sex life. Oh well, that's an exhibitionist for you! :)

[J.A. Carter-Winward · Rating 5 out of 5]

Learning a ton. Wow!

[Heather · Rating 2 out of 5]

Love her view on sexuality; refreshing!

[AngilaKay · Rating 4 out of 5]

Even if you do not agree with everything in this book, it is a very informative read about sex and pleasure.

[Jasna · Rating 4 out of 5]

very heteronormative, but otherwise a lovely and friendly book on building healthy sexual relationships

[Andrew Mason · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was amazing! Very insightful and offers great tips and eye-opening information. It also made the subject matter comfortable to read. Would recommend to anyone interested in upping their game and expanding their knowledge.

[Kailey · Rating 3 out of 5]

No pictures or drawings to explain the positions she mentions. The book is all text, and not as detailed as I'd have liked.

[Justin · Rating 3 out of 5]

There was too much focus on side topics (BDSM,butt stuff,etc.) which left the basics to a couple of chapters. Those chapters were great, but there is a whole books worth of contents out there.

[Kevin Driskill · Rating 3 out of 5]

Don't blush if you read this one. It is frank and graphic, but filled with great information. You will certainly learn something that will help your love life.

[Sawyer · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good book. Worth reading. This book has less fluff than most.